Article 31, Build Steady and Healthy Marriages, a Union of Body, Mind & Soul - Be Prepared to be Great Parents!

[Relationships:Marriage] Marriage is a union of body, mind and soul. Before marriage you have complete right over your body but now, only half the body belongs to you. Love lives by giving and forgiving, self lives by getting and forgetting, the mind sees separateness, love sees unity. Love casts out fear! The wife of the house must be always smiling and radiating Love. This is real beauty. The husband should be always providing and supporting and loving. This is real happiness!

Marriage is a Union of Body, Mind and Soul. Love is a flow, a fluid that flows continually like a fountain... [part 1 of 2]

Marriage is a union of body, mind and soul. Before marriage you have complete right over your body but now, only half the body belongs to you. The right side of the wife is the husband, and the left side of the husband is the wife. The husband and wife are like the locomotive and the compartment. To function usefully in life both must be together. One is useless without the other. The husband and wife should always stay together and eat in the presence of each other too.

The wife of the house must be always smiling and radiating Love. This is real beauty. Piling hair upon hair and doing fancy hair styles is not beauty. Before marriage, the girl should love her parent as a daughter, after marriage, the girl should also regard her in-laws as her parents. To serve her parents in-law is her duty. Even though the wife has to obey her husband, she must exercise authority jointly with her husband. The wife must develop self-confidence, because of self-confidence is the basis and self-realization is the goal of life.

What is real love then?

[1] Real Love is unconditional...

By unconditional we mean love, which does not demand anything back in return for that love. It is pure and unsullied by motives; it always gives, gives, and gives; never demanding anything back in return; there are no strings or conditions attached to this love. That is real love. Not only does this love not ask for anything in return, but continues to flow in spite of ingratitude or abuse. That is Real Love which never changes under any set of circumstances.

[2] Love is a flow, a stream of spiritual matter, a fluid that flows continually like a fountain..... Love is not an explosion, but a continued emanation, a psychic radiation which proceeds from the lover to the beloved." Here, the beloved can be one's child, one's friend, one's spouse, one's parents or one's Creator. When it includes libidinal energy, the beloved becomes one's lover. But sexuality without the spiritual dimension, merely on an animal level is like comparing a hut to a castle.

[3] Love lives by giving and forgiving,

[4] Self lives by getting and forgetting...

[5] The mind sees separateness, love sees unity....

[6] 'Love casts out fear!' 1 John 4:18

[7] When the husband and the wife accepts each other as life-partners, vowed to stay with each other, be it rain or shine, thereof we are committed to stay together. Of course, with love as the main ingredient of the family, all things will turn out nice and happy. But sad to say, too many people aren't as committed as should be. I am not going to talk too much on its negative sides

Think twice.... I used to share this short story.

When two lovers come together to marry, they are building up a family. It is like building a house. A few kids will fill up the house, making it noisy and dirty. If the roof of the house starts leaking, what will the father do? Leave it to deteriorate or throw the house away and go to build another new house? The answer is NO! The father will find means to mend the house because the whole family lives in it.

Likewise, if in the case when a man's marriage is breaking, one needs not throw away this marriage and aims to start another new family! Whose house will not leak? Whose marriage is guaranteed to be built only on roses, milk and honey? There is a way out, to solve it by 'mending', to save the marriage. There is this urgent need for mending, not leaving the marriage to die..... because there are kids! Don't be the creator of miseries and sufferings for your own kids. Never..ever think of it!