Article 30, Healthy Marriages Promised - 16 Valuable Tips that will Enrich Our Marriage

[Relationships] Live the law of love, assume the best of one another, loves lives by giving and forgiving, speak softly, do things quietly, this is a virtue. Be attentive to minor changes/needs of your spouse. Learn to sprinkle fun and jokes when doing routine works. Master the skills of cooking well, be understanding and a good listener when sharing. Don't live in suspicion, don't exaggerate, be presentable, looking clean and robust. Most important of all, recognize the roles expected of us, as a spouse and a parent!

16 useful tips for maintaining a healthy spouse relationship

[1] Live the law of love.

Refrain from saying unkind or negative things... It is most often when a partner harbours hate and revenge deep inside their heart for a certain period of time that widens the gap of misunderstanding. I do feel that sometimes angry or unkind words are spoken when someone is angry or provoked. I presume that these wrong remarks are said without a true intention. Angered phrases never make any sense! Nobody dares say that he or she can remain calm when provoked. To remain unprovoked is really a skill that all of us have to learn.

[2] Assume the best of each one another....

No comparison please. This is one of the 'killer' that injects poisonous venom into an immature partner and will be killed' by jealousy. So, it is advisable not to evoke old pains and wounds by reminding each other of negatives. Learn to assume the best of each other...

[3] Love lives by giving and forgiving, self lives by getting and forgetting...

Giving and forgiving..... giving is comparatively easier that forgiving one's faults or sins. But true love means forgiving and forgetting. Be erased of wounds and stale tales... afterall, all of us learn through mistakes. Provided one is working hard towards an improvement, provided one is genuine enough, we should learn to forgive and forget.

[4] Speak softly and do things quietly this is a virtue, a virtue for all ladies and mothers.

Too many a times they that at one time were lovers, but after becoming mothers have changed from a meek kitten to an aggressive tigress! We do understand the emotional changes that takes place to these women, of their untold sufferings, suppressed hurts and roles expected of them, that these women are also stressed. Shouting and screaming are sometimes their only ways to release their stress...but think twice! Negative effects would be doubled, seen or unseen. One can imagine the negative impact it would make to their youngs, their parents-in-laws and their husbands.

[5] Be attentive to minor changes or needs Women are actually born to be more sensitive to changes or needs of the family.

Maximize your talents and make sure that you can shoot down the problems before it really started to create any disturbances.

[6] Learn to mix with fun and jokes when partaking in the routine work.

A joyous and humorous wife or mother will be very much treasured in a home. Be smiling always, a sweet smile adorns the face means so much more than any lipsticks or flowers.

[7] Master the skill to cook well, feed the husband, kids and parent-in-laws.

A hungry man is always an angry man! Heard of this? Try to put in special skills to add smiles to their faces when serving lunch or dinner. Always give them pleasant surprises once in a while. Cook nutritious, delicious healthy food for the family. Be health-conscious and be budget-wise. One shouldnt be a spendthrift too. Think of the one who sweats to make ends meet.

[8] Be understanding and be a good listener in times of sharing.

Learn how to massage away each other's tiredness. Learn how to dis-stress each other. Bring in fun, even as parents.

[9] Don't live in suspicion. Don't exaggerate a negative word or a meaningless action.

Don't push things over the wall. Be patient to achieve peace and resolutions.

[10] Be presentable, looking clean and robust. no husband wants to see a dirty, tired, and worried face after a hard day's work.

Keep oneself healthy in body, mind, emotion and spirit. Be a winner, not a whiner.

[11] A spouse should portray certain roles appropriate to spice up their love-life.

Learn to lure, tempt your spouse that will keep their love afire with desires and needs. Sometimes can be posing as lovers, girl/boyfriends, partners, enchantress, flirting with each other and evoking another romance, passion too magical to believe or too hot to handle! There is nothing wrong in the awakening of such passion among spouses!.

[12] Be open-minded to accept new ideas.

Both partners have to come to an agreement in taking up roles as wise parents, educating them as should be. Practise give and take, stand and sit, share and reap.... We should set good examples for children to follow, monkey see, monkey do...Bearing in mind that parents are the head of the family, so caution must be taken on the language we speak.....never underestimate the importance of proper and right influences,...the hands that rock the cradle rules the world....

[13] Solve disputes or disagreements away from the kids. Give it a specific date for resolutions.

[14] Be just, but never demanding true justice.

No emotions can be balanced on justice. You love me, so I love you... I love you, so you must love me! haha.... Can it be measured as fair and square? The 3 stages of love kindled emotions portrayed at different stages are not easily achieved, it is a journey, not a destination. It works hand in hand with patience and mutual understanding. From lovers to parents, from parents to grandparents living to old age as companions for life. Don't be misled by some romance stories and films where the heroes and heroines loved dramatically and lived on beds of roses.

[15] Be contented with what we have at hand.

One bird in our hand is much better that many birds in the bushes. Don't be tempted by what looked better or seemed delicious, but stand firm and not swayed by temptations of flesh. 'A forbidden night with his lover costed him his whole life imprisonment and death was what he got eventually!!' Samson regretted. Everyone knows this bible story.

[16] Go for holidays...

Arrange some time for each other only, to renew one's relationship. Though not afire, but into the mode of deeper cherishing of one another. Love does undergo different stages. Hopefully into a mature state where the love for each other matters more than the need to be together.

Some says that the most perfect match is a deaf husband with a blind wife. But we won't want to be deaf and blind. We want to be dear and beautiful! We are loving couples to last. Genuine love will be satisfying and blossoming. BEST of all is that all of us will be moving towards becoming a healthier and happier LOVER!