Wednesday, June 23, 2010
Tuesday, April 29, 2008
Article 38, Are you in harmony with Mother Nature? Have you strayed too far from the law of Nature?
[Health-consciousness, health management]
Many of us take our body's health for granted. Or most of us take for granted that our heart will beat for us, our lungs filtering our air, our kidney filtering our blood, our liver, our bladder and many others. We over-ate, we over-worked, we over-stressed, we over-looked, we over-slept, we over-drank.... Too much 'over...' just gone too far away from the law of nature.
What have we done? Are we greedy? Are we too serious? Are we not doing our jobs well? We did set good models, good examples to many, but what has happened to our physical body? Something has definitely gone wrong.
The day is 12 hours broad daylight, 12 hours dark. The invention of bulbs, lights have added to our working hours. Actually we cannot see in the dark. Our energy levels are a little down, meaning for us to rest and be rested. But deadlines, responsibilities, crazy goals, unrealistic breakthroughs have unknowingly forced us to become supermen and superwomen. But are we?
Can we?
The spirit of winning, the spirit of being the best, the aspiration to becoming wealthy, the dream of becoming a role-player , the will to set records, to succeed, to move up the ladder of success, to rule, to have power have all led us astray, beyond and crawling over the limits.
Our mind sets the goals, our body does it. Of course, one is aware of tapping of huge potentials inside us. But too many people have stretched their energies too hard. Too many people are stretching the hands of the clock. Too many people have stretched their gray matters too hard, forgetting that our body system needs to be rested, to be relaxed, to be fed only the necessary, to be cleansed, to be exercised, to be given proper food and fluids.
Atlas, the body eventually cries out to be attended to! The body refuse to work! The body refuse to heed your command! The body is boycotting you! Something is out of balance... and I always call it dis-ease. Our body is 'not at ease' thus now complaining.... Yet part of our mind screamed to be attended to! Part of our mind says 'No!' Part of our mind says, "It will not happen to me!"
Poor guys, poor poor child... Nothing is without a cause. No fire, no smoke! Our body is screaming to our mind to 'STOP DESTROYING!' Our body is screaming to our mind to "STOP POISONING!' Our body or later our mind is screaming to our body to FIGHT! Sad to say, something is lost.... something is missing... something is not working! Something has gone wrong!
Well, be aware that our body needs to be rested, to be taken care of, to be cleansed, to be fed the appropriate food and drinks, to be given the right stuff and right kick. What is so difficult about it? Why should we be so harsh on our body? Why haven't we allow ourselves to rest and be relaxed!
Yes, be aware that we ourselves are wholly responsible for our body health. We are what we eat! We are what we think we are! Ask this question, are we in harmony with Mother Nature? Are we in balance with Mother Nature? Are we principle-centered?
Are we on the right track? Are we healthy body, mind, emotion and spirit? Stop and be aware of the balance and harmony of Mother Nature! Think twice.... think wise...
Many of us take our body's health for granted. Or most of us take for granted that our heart will beat for us, our lungs filtering our air, our kidney filtering our blood, our liver, our bladder and many others. We over-ate, we over-worked, we over-stressed, we over-looked, we over-slept, we over-drank.... Too much 'over...' just gone too far away from the law of nature.
What have we done? Are we greedy? Are we too serious? Are we not doing our jobs well? We did set good models, good examples to many, but what has happened to our physical body? Something has definitely gone wrong.
The day is 12 hours broad daylight, 12 hours dark. The invention of bulbs, lights have added to our working hours. Actually we cannot see in the dark. Our energy levels are a little down, meaning for us to rest and be rested. But deadlines, responsibilities, crazy goals, unrealistic breakthroughs have unknowingly forced us to become supermen and superwomen. But are we?
Can we?
The spirit of winning, the spirit of being the best, the aspiration to becoming wealthy, the dream of becoming a role-player , the will to set records, to succeed, to move up the ladder of success, to rule, to have power have all led us astray, beyond and crawling over the limits.
Our mind sets the goals, our body does it. Of course, one is aware of tapping of huge potentials inside us. But too many people have stretched their energies too hard. Too many people are stretching the hands of the clock. Too many people have stretched their gray matters too hard, forgetting that our body system needs to be rested, to be relaxed, to be fed only the necessary, to be cleansed, to be exercised, to be given proper food and fluids.
Atlas, the body eventually cries out to be attended to! The body refuse to work! The body refuse to heed your command! The body is boycotting you! Something is out of balance... and I always call it dis-ease. Our body is 'not at ease' thus now complaining.... Yet part of our mind screamed to be attended to! Part of our mind says 'No!' Part of our mind says, "It will not happen to me!"
Poor guys, poor poor child... Nothing is without a cause. No fire, no smoke! Our body is screaming to our mind to 'STOP DESTROYING!' Our body is screaming to our mind to "STOP POISONING!' Our body or later our mind is screaming to our body to FIGHT! Sad to say, something is lost.... something is missing... something is not working! Something has gone wrong!
Well, be aware that our body needs to be rested, to be taken care of, to be cleansed, to be fed the appropriate food and drinks, to be given the right stuff and right kick. What is so difficult about it? Why should we be so harsh on our body? Why haven't we allow ourselves to rest and be relaxed!
Yes, be aware that we ourselves are wholly responsible for our body health. We are what we eat! We are what we think we are! Ask this question, are we in harmony with Mother Nature? Are we in balance with Mother Nature? Are we principle-centered?
Are we on the right track? Are we healthy body, mind, emotion and spirit? Stop and be aware of the balance and harmony of Mother Nature! Think twice.... think wise...
Monday, April 28, 2008
Article 37, 12 Cancer-causing 'Elements' in our Home? How to Fight Them
[Cancer] Fight smart! Look out for natural, safe, easy ways to reduce or solve the 12 cancer-causing 'elements' I posted a few days ago. Here are some suggested ways to counteract those 12 cancer-causing 'elements'! They should be referred as corresponding to its numbering of the previous article. It pays to heed as to how to prevent it at the first place. Don't wait for it to happen. Don't wait for it to strike! Shoot the 'causes' down! Don't let it accumulate...
Fight smart! Look out for natural, safe, easy ways to reduce or solve the 12 cancer-causing 'elements' I posted a few days ago. Here are some suggested ways to counteract those 12 cancer-causing 'elements'! They should be referred as corresponding to its numbering of the previous article.
[1] Bring into the new home plentiful of green non-toxic plants to be placed outside your home and some at your verandah, [only one or two inside your rooms]. Keep your rooms airy and open. Fresh air comes from the plants during the day.
When night falls, use quality air purifiers that really works inside your home. A good air purifier will remove odour, airborne harmful contaminants and pollutants from the air at the same time keep the room clean with fresh air.
Good air purifiers will effectively removes pollen, dust, tobacco smoke, airborne bacteria and viruses, mold, fungi, dust mites, radon decay products, asbestos and dioxins..
[2] Electrical appliances should be kept at a safe distance
When using a computer, place two pots of green plants at each side so as to reduce radiation. These living plants will be the 'scrapgoat'. It will minimize our problem, but it is still best to stay in a safe distance from all electrical appliances especially when it is on.
Beware of our main switch when the household electric comes into our house. Work or stay far from the main switch or just any electrical switches. Be smart to arrange your working table away from them. It pays in the long run.
Try not to work in the evening. Evenings are time for us to rest and rejuvenate and be revitalized. A normal healthy person should go to bed before eleven for best total body rest.
[3] Use water purifiers
When bathing, throw in some natural flowers or natural green leaves to minimize and neutralizing of the unseen contaminants in the water. It works. Or have a pre-treat filter installed outside our home to filter dirt, chlorine and bigger contaminants.
But for drinking and cooking, one should use a reputed, safe, branded filter that emphasizes on filtering the contaminants and leaving behind valuable minerals. We call that water treatment systems.
[4] Use biodegradable shampoos, detergents and safe toothpaste that are proven to be safe.
Use biodegradable and safe products that will not pollute our environment. Fresh, clean water and air now is getting scarcer now. The importance of using biodegradable products that have quality control should be emphasized. Safe products means safe to hands, safe in the sense that they are made from plant origins instead of petroleum distillates or other chemicals.
Though we need to pay more for those biodegradable products, it will be comparatively 'cheaper' in the sense of toxicity and poisoning or cancer-causing problems . If we don't heed them, one day we will pay dearly for this ignorance.
[5] Use traps, boiling water to rid off those insects
Keeping our home clean and hygiene really means to clean it thoroughly. A clean house is detestable to flies and other insects. It is the filth and dirtiness that attract more unwanted pests into our home.
One can also use traps, boiling water to rid off those crawling insects. Mosquitoes nets can be a built-in for homes in humid and equatorial areas.
[6] Use good vacuum and quality air purifiers, it helps!
Poor ventilation in enclosed bedrooms should be regularly aired and to let sunlight into Use of good vacuum and quality air purifiers is a must to keep our rooms clean and green.
[7] Use stainless steels pots
Avoid using aluminium pots, non-stick pots that cannot withstand scratches and abrasive cleansing. Buy pots made of stainless steel. Or utensils made from iron can do too, but there is a need to keep it clean and non-rusty.
[8] Use safe food containers
Proper and safe food storage would stand in advantage where health and hygiene is concerned. Get acquainted with proper food storage.
[9] Don't stock up canned foods, just don't buy in excess, use low heat cooking
Most foods are perishable within days of harvest, cooking or storing. One must be advised as not to eat moldy nor burnt foods. Especially those foods that contain fats cannot be kept long.
[10] Wear silk or cotton light clothing
Fabrics made from plant fibers and origins are safer than synthetic fibers. Be careful with its dying processes too. Dark colored materials for internal wear should be out.
[11] Take food supplements instead of medicines
Go for preventive measures, nutritional cures, natural food cures, reflexology, massage or detox programmes which are much safer and effective. Understand the meaning of total health and happiness achievable through the 4 dimensions of health.
[12] Make sure you use 'proven-to-be-safe' products, for our skin, eyes and overall health.
There might be cancer-causing agents hidden in some skin care or cosmetics. Buy only from reputed sources.
Since all of us fear the overloading of contaminants in our body, special care should be taken to prevent instead of waiting for it to happen. Prevention is much better than cure. Don't overload our body system with toxemia and acidosis that cause all kinds of cancer!
Fight smart! Look out for natural, safe, easy ways to reduce or solve the 12 cancer-causing 'elements' I posted a few days ago. Here are some suggested ways to counteract those 12 cancer-causing 'elements'! They should be referred as corresponding to its numbering of the previous article.
[1] Bring into the new home plentiful of green non-toxic plants to be placed outside your home and some at your verandah, [only one or two inside your rooms]. Keep your rooms airy and open. Fresh air comes from the plants during the day.
When night falls, use quality air purifiers that really works inside your home. A good air purifier will remove odour, airborne harmful contaminants and pollutants from the air at the same time keep the room clean with fresh air.
Good air purifiers will effectively removes pollen, dust, tobacco smoke, airborne bacteria and viruses, mold, fungi, dust mites, radon decay products, asbestos and dioxins..
[2] Electrical appliances should be kept at a safe distance
When using a computer, place two pots of green plants at each side so as to reduce radiation. These living plants will be the 'scrapgoat'. It will minimize our problem, but it is still best to stay in a safe distance from all electrical appliances especially when it is on.
Beware of our main switch when the household electric comes into our house. Work or stay far from the main switch or just any electrical switches. Be smart to arrange your working table away from them. It pays in the long run.
Try not to work in the evening. Evenings are time for us to rest and rejuvenate and be revitalized. A normal healthy person should go to bed before eleven for best total body rest.
[3] Use water purifiers
When bathing, throw in some natural flowers or natural green leaves to minimize and neutralizing of the unseen contaminants in the water. It works. Or have a pre-treat filter installed outside our home to filter dirt, chlorine and bigger contaminants.
But for drinking and cooking, one should use a reputed, safe, branded filter that emphasizes on filtering the contaminants and leaving behind valuable minerals. We call that water treatment systems.
[4] Use biodegradable shampoos, detergents and safe toothpaste that are proven to be safe.
Use biodegradable and safe products that will not pollute our environment. Fresh, clean water and air now is getting scarcer now. The importance of using biodegradable products that have quality control should be emphasized. Safe products means safe to hands, safe in the sense that they are made from plant origins instead of petroleum distillates or other chemicals.
Though we need to pay more for those biodegradable products, it will be comparatively 'cheaper' in the sense of toxicity and poisoning or cancer-causing problems . If we don't heed them, one day we will pay dearly for this ignorance.
[5] Use traps, boiling water to rid off those insects
Keeping our home clean and hygiene really means to clean it thoroughly. A clean house is detestable to flies and other insects. It is the filth and dirtiness that attract more unwanted pests into our home.
One can also use traps, boiling water to rid off those crawling insects. Mosquitoes nets can be a built-in for homes in humid and equatorial areas.
[6] Use good vacuum and quality air purifiers, it helps!
Poor ventilation in enclosed bedrooms should be regularly aired and to let sunlight into Use of good vacuum and quality air purifiers is a must to keep our rooms clean and green.
[7] Use stainless steels pots
Avoid using aluminium pots, non-stick pots that cannot withstand scratches and abrasive cleansing. Buy pots made of stainless steel. Or utensils made from iron can do too, but there is a need to keep it clean and non-rusty.
[8] Use safe food containers
Proper and safe food storage would stand in advantage where health and hygiene is concerned. Get acquainted with proper food storage.
[9] Don't stock up canned foods, just don't buy in excess, use low heat cooking
Most foods are perishable within days of harvest, cooking or storing. One must be advised as not to eat moldy nor burnt foods. Especially those foods that contain fats cannot be kept long.
[10] Wear silk or cotton light clothing
Fabrics made from plant fibers and origins are safer than synthetic fibers. Be careful with its dying processes too. Dark colored materials for internal wear should be out.
[11] Take food supplements instead of medicines
Go for preventive measures, nutritional cures, natural food cures, reflexology, massage or detox programmes which are much safer and effective. Understand the meaning of total health and happiness achievable through the 4 dimensions of health.
[12] Make sure you use 'proven-to-be-safe' products, for our skin, eyes and overall health.
There might be cancer-causing agents hidden in some skin care or cosmetics. Buy only from reputed sources.
Since all of us fear the overloading of contaminants in our body, special care should be taken to prevent instead of waiting for it to happen. Prevention is much better than cure. Don't overload our body system with toxemia and acidosis that cause all kinds of cancer!
Article 36, 12 Cancer-Causing 'Elements' Found In Our Home!
[Cancer] Cancer-causing elements found in our home? Quite unbelievable at first, but when one reads on, you will know that most of them are found in our own home. Yes, we are exposed to a lot of cancer-causing elements. Try to minimize the exposure of these common things found in our home. Try to avoid if possible. Be smart in our choice of daily used products and be aware of the quality of water, air and environment we are in!
When I jokingly told my friend about 12 common categorized 'cancer causing elements' found in some homes, my friend was in disbelief! She couldn't accept these facts that there are cancer-causing elements found in our own home... Let's have a look at all those cancer-causing elements basically found in our home!
[1] Vanishes, Industrial coatings, Paints and their solvents and Glues
These are generally found in newly completed or renovated homes where most of them are freshly applied to walls, floors, ceilings in bedrooms, sitting rooms, kitchens and even our bathroom.
A very distinctive sign of all these home finishing coatings will be the unbearable odor when applied inside or outside the house. Decaying plasters after decades will also be cancerous. The worst is that we spend more time at home, thus increasing certain risks.
[2] Electrical appliances
Most electrical appliances produce small or slight radiation and is never healthy towards those who are constantly exposed to them. What are these electrical appliances? Television sets, video players, computers, hand phones and the main switch just to mention a few.
[3] Water-borne cancer-causing elements that comes from our water taps
Tap water is always chlorinated to kill germs and bacteria. We need chlorine but we need not drink the chlorine inside the water. Moreover, there are heavy metals, other contaminants, possible toxins that one is not aware of. In the process of washing, cleansing, cooking and drinking, many have unknowingly consumed dirtied water that might be cancer-causing in the long run.
[4] In your kitchen, in your bathroom..
Some toothpaste, shampoos, soaps, body shampoos, washing powder do contains unexplainable cancer-causing elements. Most of these are manufactured without scientific backup and lack of quality control. So, take great care to buy only reputed branded quality products which are backed up with scientific proofs. Read the labels outside the products, its expiry date and know the basic ingredients it is made. .
[5] Insecticides to keep away mosquitoes, cockroaches and other insects
If they can kill small insects, it can also poison people slowly too when exposed for a long period of usage of the said chemicals. Moreover, it is not safe for young kids and the aged.
[6]In your bedroom
Poor ventilation in enclosed bedrooms, lacking of sunlight and fresh air will create poor quality air. Contaminated air will cause a lot of health problems. Great care should be taken as to maintain clean and fresh air in the bedroom.
There are certain contaminants in the air that will cause cancer. Free radicals from polluted air will attack our body DNA and immune system unmercifully.
[7] Improper cooking utensils
Aluminium pots, non-stick pans that gets worn out and gets thinner after constant use can cause havoc in our body when these metals and unknown chemicals are consumed with our foods cooked using them. Sad to say, it cannot be easily excreted from our body. The worst fear is that it goes into our blood streams. Cooking gas when inhaled will also cause health problems.
[8] Unsafe food containers, food storage compartment
Some housewives are ignorant about using safe food containers, when microwaving and cooking. Some food containers are not suitable for storing hot foods, especially plastic and rubber.
[9] Your supplies of canned foods, preserved foods, sauces and stale foods kept too long,
Some canned foods are full of cancer-causing elements. Moldy foods are never advisable for consumption too. Foods rich in fats that become stale is cancer-causing too. Beware of stale groundnuts! It is the fat that cause it to be cancer-causing.
[10] In your wardrobe
Dark deep colored lingerie and underwear..... Those underwear that are wore day and night, close to our sensitive body parts ... dyed by certain dyes can be cancer-causing. A word of advice, don't buy or wear dark colored lingerie or underwear, especially black.
[11] In your cardboard
You might keep some medicines, pills, cough solution in your cardboard. You might also be in some form of medication. Some drugs are only found to contain carcinogens after a period of trial and error. What a big guinea pig we have become!
[12] In your dressing room
Some skin care products and cosmetics might also contain cancer-causing elements too. Beware of some skin care products who never emphasized on safety and quality control. Be smart to opt for preventive measures which are still the best!
What all of us fear is pollution and contamination. Polluted air, water, environment and food or drinks will cause cancer in the long run when the free radicals create havoc in our body system. Too much toxemia and acidosis will ruin our normal cells. From there, cancer is born....
When I jokingly told my friend about 12 common categorized 'cancer causing elements' found in some homes, my friend was in disbelief! She couldn't accept these facts that there are cancer-causing elements found in our own home... Let's have a look at all those cancer-causing elements basically found in our home!
[1] Vanishes, Industrial coatings, Paints and their solvents and Glues
These are generally found in newly completed or renovated homes where most of them are freshly applied to walls, floors, ceilings in bedrooms, sitting rooms, kitchens and even our bathroom.
A very distinctive sign of all these home finishing coatings will be the unbearable odor when applied inside or outside the house. Decaying plasters after decades will also be cancerous. The worst is that we spend more time at home, thus increasing certain risks.
[2] Electrical appliances
Most electrical appliances produce small or slight radiation and is never healthy towards those who are constantly exposed to them. What are these electrical appliances? Television sets, video players, computers, hand phones and the main switch just to mention a few.
[3] Water-borne cancer-causing elements that comes from our water taps
Tap water is always chlorinated to kill germs and bacteria. We need chlorine but we need not drink the chlorine inside the water. Moreover, there are heavy metals, other contaminants, possible toxins that one is not aware of. In the process of washing, cleansing, cooking and drinking, many have unknowingly consumed dirtied water that might be cancer-causing in the long run.
[4] In your kitchen, in your bathroom..
Some toothpaste, shampoos, soaps, body shampoos, washing powder do contains unexplainable cancer-causing elements. Most of these are manufactured without scientific backup and lack of quality control. So, take great care to buy only reputed branded quality products which are backed up with scientific proofs. Read the labels outside the products, its expiry date and know the basic ingredients it is made. .
[5] Insecticides to keep away mosquitoes, cockroaches and other insects
If they can kill small insects, it can also poison people slowly too when exposed for a long period of usage of the said chemicals. Moreover, it is not safe for young kids and the aged.
[6]In your bedroom
Poor ventilation in enclosed bedrooms, lacking of sunlight and fresh air will create poor quality air. Contaminated air will cause a lot of health problems. Great care should be taken as to maintain clean and fresh air in the bedroom.
There are certain contaminants in the air that will cause cancer. Free radicals from polluted air will attack our body DNA and immune system unmercifully.
[7] Improper cooking utensils
Aluminium pots, non-stick pans that gets worn out and gets thinner after constant use can cause havoc in our body when these metals and unknown chemicals are consumed with our foods cooked using them. Sad to say, it cannot be easily excreted from our body. The worst fear is that it goes into our blood streams. Cooking gas when inhaled will also cause health problems.
[8] Unsafe food containers, food storage compartment
Some housewives are ignorant about using safe food containers, when microwaving and cooking. Some food containers are not suitable for storing hot foods, especially plastic and rubber.
[9] Your supplies of canned foods, preserved foods, sauces and stale foods kept too long,
Some canned foods are full of cancer-causing elements. Moldy foods are never advisable for consumption too. Foods rich in fats that become stale is cancer-causing too. Beware of stale groundnuts! It is the fat that cause it to be cancer-causing.
[10] In your wardrobe
Dark deep colored lingerie and underwear..... Those underwear that are wore day and night, close to our sensitive body parts ... dyed by certain dyes can be cancer-causing. A word of advice, don't buy or wear dark colored lingerie or underwear, especially black.
[11] In your cardboard
You might keep some medicines, pills, cough solution in your cardboard. You might also be in some form of medication. Some drugs are only found to contain carcinogens after a period of trial and error. What a big guinea pig we have become!
[12] In your dressing room
Some skin care products and cosmetics might also contain cancer-causing elements too. Beware of some skin care products who never emphasized on safety and quality control. Be smart to opt for preventive measures which are still the best!
What all of us fear is pollution and contamination. Polluted air, water, environment and food or drinks will cause cancer in the long run when the free radicals create havoc in our body system. Too much toxemia and acidosis will ruin our normal cells. From there, cancer is born....
Article 35, 8 Urgent Needs for a Cancer Patient to Heed! Fight and Win!
[Cancer] Cancer is not incurable. There have been many cases where cancer patients survive and are still living well even until now. I have seen most of them, talked to them and even lived with them. So here, I have drafted out 8 urgent needs for one to heed. The most important of all is the patient's will of survival. Of course, working hand in hand with the physician will speed up one's recovery. Win the fight and be beacons to many others! Be a living testimony for many others to follow!
The WILL to SURVIVE cancer is the most urgent need for just any cancer patient. No one can survive when his or her will to survive cancer is gone. Hope will bring light, light will bring confidence, confidence is faith. Faith will survive the fight! Emerge as Winners!
[1] The will to survive
Do not be disheartened and discouraged! Listen! Obey! Respect! and Follow your Faith! What ever the trouble, the pain or suffering, the only goal of our life should be holding on to the Faith! This is the essence of our life.
Pray for inner strength, the surge of which will carry you through the ups and downs of the mind's rebellion. To uproot the chaos that is already present. You must find the strength of a rock to face the challenges. Love conquers all. Fill every thought with the might of its warmth, maturity and compassion. This is the only race where one should emerge a winner, not a whiner! This is the most urgent need, the strong will to survive! Tell yourself that you WILL DEFINITELY recover!
[2] The will to accept and adapt to certain changes
The expectations of certain degrees of discomforts, disabilities, sufferings would be there. There is nothing as unbearable, treat sufferings and miseries as footsteps towards deeper understanding of True Self. When one is in deep suffering, one will be forced to search within and look for resolutions.
We should have equanimity towards honor and dishonor, cold and heat, pleasure and pain. Without pain, one cannot understand pleasure, sorrow is verily the royal road to joy.
Sufferings are the stepping stones that lead man towards virtuous conducts. Deep suffering and pain is also one form of meditation in faith. It always lead to self realization and self awakening. Be patient to understand these changes. Fear not.
[3] The will to change for the better
Certain foods and drinks that are carcinogeous should be immediately avoided. Unhealthy lifestyles should be put to a stop. "Doctors of the future will give no medicine, but will interest his patients in the care of the human frame and diet, and the cause and prevention of diseases." Understand what Thomas A. Edison said. Find out the cause and prevent it from happening at the first place.
But fear not, as I always confide in many people, there are also certain miraculous and wonderful food that can cure cancer. Change for the better. Stop poisoning our body, go for a detoxification program where one can go on a strict diet on just certain fruits, vegetables and herbs. It will heal. Starve the cancerous cells, feed the immune system.
[4] The will to smile at adversity
Do not fear, carry the luggage of will and strength. Strive on, tough man will last, tough time won't! Whenever you find truth, beauty, goodness, justice, wisdom, compassion, hope, love, God is present and active! We must surrender our judgement to the Lord, then the Lord will assume full responsibility and be your guardian, guide and the motivator. Our worries and tears cannot change what is predetermined. Be equal-minded to happiness and unhappiness.
People are being tested, but it should not be called so. It is grace, those who suffer have God's grace. Only through suffering will they be persuaded to turn inward and make the inquiry. And without turning inward and making inquiry, they can never escape misery! Pass the test of adversity, pass it with doctorate!
[5] The will to reprogram one's thinking
Life brings the message to live it to the fullest, but how many of you are using the power of this strength, fully and completely? Rid off poor habits and restraints, delete uncontrolled desires of the mind which are simply excusedly called 'pleasures' and 'prizes' Reprogram one's thinking to more meaningful works. Choose to stay with positive companions and environment. Be positive in thoughts, in words, in deeds and apply all positive emotions.
[6] The will to 'look beyond' our mortal body
Planning ahead, yes planning ahead. With each sunset, the span of life is being chipped away remorselessly but man does not prepare himself for the eventuality of death and the aftermaths. Our mortal body cannot survive forever. But our immortal soul is embedded inside our mortal body. Have one ever given a second thought on how to attain immortality and that we are actually a spark of Divinity?
[7] The will to cooperate with doctors and physicians
There are many cases where patients aren't cooperating well with healing doctors. We have our choice to which physicians we trust. We need the doctors to diagnosis our well-being and our status of cancer. To survive a cancer, one MUST work hand in hand with your doctor. It is a MUST!
[8] The will to return to normal living, accepting oneself among friends, loved ones, relatives and family
Love will solves all problems and challenges. Recovery from a near-death illness is no game to gamble or play with. All of us learn in a difficult and expensive way in realizing the value of life. All of us should show discipline and wisdom in emerging as a winner and once again one is breathing freely and feeling the warmth and beauty of sunshine. Life written cannot be rewritten. All of us should learn to treasure life.
This article is taken from my personal blog and actually is written for a new friend who is now having ovarian cancer and is now hospitalized. I wish her speedy recovery and would like to share with more people on how to survive cancer. Fight we must, survive we will. This is the 3rd article on cancer that I have wrote.
If there is a will, there is a way, if there are 8 WILLS, there are MANY WAYS!
The WILL to SURVIVE cancer is the most urgent need for just any cancer patient. No one can survive when his or her will to survive cancer is gone. Hope will bring light, light will bring confidence, confidence is faith. Faith will survive the fight! Emerge as Winners!
[1] The will to survive
Do not be disheartened and discouraged! Listen! Obey! Respect! and Follow your Faith! What ever the trouble, the pain or suffering, the only goal of our life should be holding on to the Faith! This is the essence of our life.
Pray for inner strength, the surge of which will carry you through the ups and downs of the mind's rebellion. To uproot the chaos that is already present. You must find the strength of a rock to face the challenges. Love conquers all. Fill every thought with the might of its warmth, maturity and compassion. This is the only race where one should emerge a winner, not a whiner! This is the most urgent need, the strong will to survive! Tell yourself that you WILL DEFINITELY recover!
[2] The will to accept and adapt to certain changes
The expectations of certain degrees of discomforts, disabilities, sufferings would be there. There is nothing as unbearable, treat sufferings and miseries as footsteps towards deeper understanding of True Self. When one is in deep suffering, one will be forced to search within and look for resolutions.
We should have equanimity towards honor and dishonor, cold and heat, pleasure and pain. Without pain, one cannot understand pleasure, sorrow is verily the royal road to joy.
Sufferings are the stepping stones that lead man towards virtuous conducts. Deep suffering and pain is also one form of meditation in faith. It always lead to self realization and self awakening. Be patient to understand these changes. Fear not.
[3] The will to change for the better
Certain foods and drinks that are carcinogeous should be immediately avoided. Unhealthy lifestyles should be put to a stop. "Doctors of the future will give no medicine, but will interest his patients in the care of the human frame and diet, and the cause and prevention of diseases." Understand what Thomas A. Edison said. Find out the cause and prevent it from happening at the first place.
But fear not, as I always confide in many people, there are also certain miraculous and wonderful food that can cure cancer. Change for the better. Stop poisoning our body, go for a detoxification program where one can go on a strict diet on just certain fruits, vegetables and herbs. It will heal. Starve the cancerous cells, feed the immune system.
[4] The will to smile at adversity
Do not fear, carry the luggage of will and strength. Strive on, tough man will last, tough time won't! Whenever you find truth, beauty, goodness, justice, wisdom, compassion, hope, love, God is present and active! We must surrender our judgement to the Lord, then the Lord will assume full responsibility and be your guardian, guide and the motivator. Our worries and tears cannot change what is predetermined. Be equal-minded to happiness and unhappiness.
People are being tested, but it should not be called so. It is grace, those who suffer have God's grace. Only through suffering will they be persuaded to turn inward and make the inquiry. And without turning inward and making inquiry, they can never escape misery! Pass the test of adversity, pass it with doctorate!
[5] The will to reprogram one's thinking
Life brings the message to live it to the fullest, but how many of you are using the power of this strength, fully and completely? Rid off poor habits and restraints, delete uncontrolled desires of the mind which are simply excusedly called 'pleasures' and 'prizes' Reprogram one's thinking to more meaningful works. Choose to stay with positive companions and environment. Be positive in thoughts, in words, in deeds and apply all positive emotions.
[6] The will to 'look beyond' our mortal body
Planning ahead, yes planning ahead. With each sunset, the span of life is being chipped away remorselessly but man does not prepare himself for the eventuality of death and the aftermaths. Our mortal body cannot survive forever. But our immortal soul is embedded inside our mortal body. Have one ever given a second thought on how to attain immortality and that we are actually a spark of Divinity?
[7] The will to cooperate with doctors and physicians
There are many cases where patients aren't cooperating well with healing doctors. We have our choice to which physicians we trust. We need the doctors to diagnosis our well-being and our status of cancer. To survive a cancer, one MUST work hand in hand with your doctor. It is a MUST!
[8] The will to return to normal living, accepting oneself among friends, loved ones, relatives and family
Love will solves all problems and challenges. Recovery from a near-death illness is no game to gamble or play with. All of us learn in a difficult and expensive way in realizing the value of life. All of us should show discipline and wisdom in emerging as a winner and once again one is breathing freely and feeling the warmth and beauty of sunshine. Life written cannot be rewritten. All of us should learn to treasure life.
This article is taken from my personal blog and actually is written for a new friend who is now having ovarian cancer and is now hospitalized. I wish her speedy recovery and would like to share with more people on how to survive cancer. Fight we must, survive we will. This is the 3rd article on cancer that I have wrote.
If there is a will, there is a way, if there are 8 WILLS, there are MANY WAYS!
Article 34, 10 Great Tips to Win the Fight of Cancer for our Loved Ones!
[Cancer] Put cancer at bay, read that? Well, it works. Here is another article on what we should do when a family member is found to have cancer. Have faith, have the strength to fight and win and survive! It works, it really works. Many have survived! Many have proven to work. "Starve the cancer cells, boost our immune system!"
What are the things that we should do when a family member is found to have cancer?
[1] Show your love and concern
This is the most important thing we ought to do. Gather your strength and faith and to stand by her no matter what happens. Tell her, and emphasize that we all love her and care for her. Standing by her means that we are not leaving her alone to fight cancer. Let's do it together. Her tears are our tears, her sorrow our sorrow too. Let her know and confide in us. If you really care for her, spend more time with her. Just make sure that you are there when she needs us. Be determined and strive only to WIN!
[2] Be positive. Look at the bright side of life!
Why should we be positive? this is the AQ that I always share with my friends.. Pass the test, yes, past the test! Fear not! Adversity Quotient is a skill that we all have to master. Face all challenges with unwavering courage and be strong. Rid of unnecessary FEAR! Be confident that all will be fine and well. Most patients are killed by 'fear', not the real illness. People gave up hope too soon! Give relevant encouragements. Know that cancer is not incurable! There are also so many people out there who survived cancer! Show her confidence! Don't be distressed yourself. Stress kills too.
[3] Pray for forgiveness together.
Miracles do happen if one prays and believe enough. Have 100% faith and believe in your faith. Everything happen, happens for the good. Let God be our guide, our strength. Set a timetable for constant purposeful prayers with her/him. Recite our Lord's prayer and understand the meanings. 'Our father in heaven, holy be thy name...... Your will be done, on earth as in heaven..'
From here, we must acknowledge that God is our father... our father! Our father will know what is best for us, leave everything to HIM, His will be done, not ours! Can you really believe that 100%?
[4] Stop eating carcinogeous foods. Stop poisoning our body. Review your food, a change is needed immediately.
The difficulty in this is that not people are educated with the knowledge of food toxemia and acidosis that makes our blood acidic. Another problem is that the majority are eating them! Facts are facts, read more health conscious articles and be aware of all those foods that might cause cancer when taken in excess!
Stop eating those food that one have been consuming all those while that might caused cancer, so it is advisable to stop and change immediately. Since there are certain foods that cause cancer, there are also foods that can cure and prevent cancer. Wake up! There are plentiful of foods and herbs that one can eat to put cancer at bay. Change our diet, change our lifestyle!
Since air, water and food is directly affecting our immune system, it is of great importance that we review the quality of air, water and food that we take. Start from drinking clean water and food.
[5] Learn more about cancer. Knowledge is confidence.
At the same time, spare some time to really understand what cancer is. Look for appropriate knowledge, proven and relevant knowledge on preventive cures and treatments. Read to understand why people get cancer and how to prevent them. It might happen to just anybody!
[6] Immediate revision of choice of food
I suggest immediate and revised food timetable for the patient. I won't allow any animal protein foods. I will draft a 100% vegetarian diet, with 60% raw vegetables and fruits to be taken 3 to 5 times a day.
[7] Eat plentiful of rich anti-oxidants food
I will blend a 8V to be taken twice a day. 8V is a combination of some natural green herbs, vegetables and some fruits to be taken immediately after blending. 8 means eight types of food. [types of herbs used depend on the type and seriousness of cancer]
[8] Make sure that they are taking higher doses of anti-oxidants supplements from relevant sources and drink plentiful of clean water
I will give higher doses of anti-oxidants especially A, C, E and high quality plant protein to boost his/her immune system.
[9] Rest their body system [esp. their liver and kidney]
I will grow sprouts from different types of beans. I will let the patient take it twice or thrice a day and best taken when raw. It is a miracle food, a superior food to be exact.
[10] Appropriate nursing place [in the embrace of Mother Nature] and relevant breathing exercise
The above is taken from my personal column on "alternative health" at http://submitarticles.biz.
I will also work out a breathing exercise with him/her and emphasize on self-affirming of speedy recovery. I will make sure that I will nurse him/her back to proper health personally.
I would also like to arrange a resort and to spend with her/his recovery period away from city life, away from the crowd, but near or in the embrace of nature at its best, where one can hear birds singing, dragonflies and butterflies flying, clear ripples of waterfalls, and breathe in cool, fresh air and be at ease with Mother Nature....
Prevention is much better than cure, believe me. Go for detoxification too. I have written and posted the article on how to keep cancer at bay, read to understand. Cancer can be prevented! Your brothers are also my brothers, your sisters are also my sisters too. We all are, it is never too late!
What are the things that we should do when a family member is found to have cancer?
[1] Show your love and concern
This is the most important thing we ought to do. Gather your strength and faith and to stand by her no matter what happens. Tell her, and emphasize that we all love her and care for her. Standing by her means that we are not leaving her alone to fight cancer. Let's do it together. Her tears are our tears, her sorrow our sorrow too. Let her know and confide in us. If you really care for her, spend more time with her. Just make sure that you are there when she needs us. Be determined and strive only to WIN!
[2] Be positive. Look at the bright side of life!
Why should we be positive? this is the AQ that I always share with my friends.. Pass the test, yes, past the test! Fear not! Adversity Quotient is a skill that we all have to master. Face all challenges with unwavering courage and be strong. Rid of unnecessary FEAR! Be confident that all will be fine and well. Most patients are killed by 'fear', not the real illness. People gave up hope too soon! Give relevant encouragements. Know that cancer is not incurable! There are also so many people out there who survived cancer! Show her confidence! Don't be distressed yourself. Stress kills too.
[3] Pray for forgiveness together.
Miracles do happen if one prays and believe enough. Have 100% faith and believe in your faith. Everything happen, happens for the good. Let God be our guide, our strength. Set a timetable for constant purposeful prayers with her/him. Recite our Lord's prayer and understand the meanings. 'Our father in heaven, holy be thy name...... Your will be done, on earth as in heaven..'
From here, we must acknowledge that God is our father... our father! Our father will know what is best for us, leave everything to HIM, His will be done, not ours! Can you really believe that 100%?
[4] Stop eating carcinogeous foods. Stop poisoning our body. Review your food, a change is needed immediately.
The difficulty in this is that not people are educated with the knowledge of food toxemia and acidosis that makes our blood acidic. Another problem is that the majority are eating them! Facts are facts, read more health conscious articles and be aware of all those foods that might cause cancer when taken in excess!
Stop eating those food that one have been consuming all those while that might caused cancer, so it is advisable to stop and change immediately. Since there are certain foods that cause cancer, there are also foods that can cure and prevent cancer. Wake up! There are plentiful of foods and herbs that one can eat to put cancer at bay. Change our diet, change our lifestyle!
Since air, water and food is directly affecting our immune system, it is of great importance that we review the quality of air, water and food that we take. Start from drinking clean water and food.
[5] Learn more about cancer. Knowledge is confidence.
At the same time, spare some time to really understand what cancer is. Look for appropriate knowledge, proven and relevant knowledge on preventive cures and treatments. Read to understand why people get cancer and how to prevent them. It might happen to just anybody!
[6] Immediate revision of choice of food
I suggest immediate and revised food timetable for the patient. I won't allow any animal protein foods. I will draft a 100% vegetarian diet, with 60% raw vegetables and fruits to be taken 3 to 5 times a day.
[7] Eat plentiful of rich anti-oxidants food
I will blend a 8V to be taken twice a day. 8V is a combination of some natural green herbs, vegetables and some fruits to be taken immediately after blending. 8 means eight types of food. [types of herbs used depend on the type and seriousness of cancer]
[8] Make sure that they are taking higher doses of anti-oxidants supplements from relevant sources and drink plentiful of clean water
I will give higher doses of anti-oxidants especially A, C, E and high quality plant protein to boost his/her immune system.
[9] Rest their body system [esp. their liver and kidney]
I will grow sprouts from different types of beans. I will let the patient take it twice or thrice a day and best taken when raw. It is a miracle food, a superior food to be exact.
[10] Appropriate nursing place [in the embrace of Mother Nature] and relevant breathing exercise
The above is taken from my personal column on "alternative health" at http://submitarticles.biz.
I will also work out a breathing exercise with him/her and emphasize on self-affirming of speedy recovery. I will make sure that I will nurse him/her back to proper health personally.
I would also like to arrange a resort and to spend with her/his recovery period away from city life, away from the crowd, but near or in the embrace of nature at its best, where one can hear birds singing, dragonflies and butterflies flying, clear ripples of waterfalls, and breathe in cool, fresh air and be at ease with Mother Nature....
Prevention is much better than cure, believe me. Go for detoxification too. I have written and posted the article on how to keep cancer at bay, read to understand. Cancer can be prevented! Your brothers are also my brothers, your sisters are also my sisters too. We all are, it is never too late!
Article 33, Cancer Prevention - Keeping Most Cancer At Bay
[Cancer] From my many years of research and survey, I understand that cancer can be prevented at the first place. These are several tips that all of us should take precaution in preventing cancer at the first place. Most cancer cases comes from eating the wrong foods and that our body cannot eliminate the toxemia and acidosis accumulated efficiently. Prevention is so much better than cure, it is simple and easy.
Cancer prevention - tips on cancer prevention
I have lived with cancer patients, have seen and understood their ailing conditions, felt the pain, the fear, the stress, the hopeless feelings and realized how much it affected their loved ones. I have surveyed a location where there were 10 homes at a small corner of my stay where 10 families resided. From my survey, I came to know that there were 8 cases of cancer, ranging from 2 leukemia, breast cancer, 2 uterus cancer, bone cancer and colon cancer. Out of the 8 cancer cases, left only 2 who are still living until now. The rest of them didn't survive the clutch of death, most of them suffering and dying a miserable death.
I guess I was in my twenties when I did that survey. I saw them affected, suffered and died. They were short-lived from the day they were affected. No one lived more than 5 years, some as early as within a year. Nothing is ever seen or talked of them any more. Moreover, the 10 families include several diabetes cases, few strokes and many families that are also affected by B Hepatitis. Most of them have high blood pressure and are dependent on pills and medicines to maintain their health condition.
Sometimes in the still darkness of night, I would still feel the rush of unshed tears when I recalled those cases. Cancer was such a taboo to talk about and most people were scared stiff to hear about incurable cancer. But I was the inquisitive type that would go to just any limits in search for the answer. So, it was lucky of me when I got myself involved in this holistic approach towards treatment and preventive cures from food, herbs and natural, inexpensive and safe ways. I was glad that I managed to master all those skills.
From my over 20 years of experiences in holistic approaches in preventive cures and treatment, I hereby would like to share with all of you about cancer-prevention, hopeful that cancer can be placed far away from us. Here are 10 tips on how to prevent cancer. These are taken from my personal column on "Alternative Health" in http://articlesubmission.info.
[1] Consume a variety of natural foods that contains high and good antioxidants excellent in detoxifying our body system from accumulated toxemia and acidosis. Drink enough clean unpolluted air to help flush out wastes products.
[2] Eat more locally planted vegetables and fruits, 5 servings of vegetables and 3 servings of fruits per day is advisable. Best taken raw which is rich in life-enhancing enzymes. Make sure that they are organically planted.
[3] Consume more beans or legumes that can help to prevent cells mutation
[4] Be conscious of our weight, don't over eat or stuff oneself, most cancer cases comes from overeating wrong foods and drinks. [the mandarin word of cancer is made up of 3 mouths that makes up the mountain of it, meaning overeating]
[5] Exercising moderately, go for stretching and proper breathing and make sure that our body cells are well irrigated with oxygen and rid off waste products.
[6] Don't eat burnt foods or stale fats. Fats easily go bad and are unstable and contains carcinogens when overheated or disturbed. [Beware of groundnuts, rich in fats but when those fats have distorted or gone stale, will taste weird, don't eat]
[7] Eat meats or fish sparingly [too acidic in nature]
[8] Refrain from too much alcohol drinks, refrain from smoking [don't purposely poison our body]
[9] Don't eat canned, processed, preserved foods that are high in carcinogens or preservatives, artificial flavourings and colorings
[10] 'Breathe in' positives like hope, love, self-affirmation of good health and exhale negatives like stress, fear, worries, sickness or destructive emotions.
There are some other reasons not included or explained. But you might have heard about this. 'Starve the cancer cells', don't feed them with animal proteins. Get acquainted with the wonder sprouts that contains high phyto-factors that will boost one's immune system. Prevention is so much better than cure. Spend our money wisely, do not buy 'troubles', do not 'invite' them..
Humans actually don't fall sick easily. Humans are extremely tough and strong and healthy provided we don't purposely poison ourselves with improper foods that causes toxemia and acidosis. Be grateful that our heart has been pumping blood into our circulatory system ever since we were born. Be grateful that our lungs, our kidneys and livers have been working for us the many years until now. Our kidney can still work even when left with 5% capability.
We should heed preventive measures. It is never too difficult nor too far away or impossible! Don't be too ignorant that the 'demon of illness' will not strike just anybody. Don't prepare a condition that welcomes it to strike us. Don't invite, but scare it off, ward it with strong immune system and again be thankful that we are endowed with plentiful of vegetables, fruits and herbs that can prevent cancer at the first place. Yes, there are cancer-preventing foods in abundance so near us.
If there are foods that can cause cancer, there are also certain foods that can prevent it, be aware of this fact.
Cancer prevention - tips on cancer prevention
I have lived with cancer patients, have seen and understood their ailing conditions, felt the pain, the fear, the stress, the hopeless feelings and realized how much it affected their loved ones. I have surveyed a location where there were 10 homes at a small corner of my stay where 10 families resided. From my survey, I came to know that there were 8 cases of cancer, ranging from 2 leukemia, breast cancer, 2 uterus cancer, bone cancer and colon cancer. Out of the 8 cancer cases, left only 2 who are still living until now. The rest of them didn't survive the clutch of death, most of them suffering and dying a miserable death.
I guess I was in my twenties when I did that survey. I saw them affected, suffered and died. They were short-lived from the day they were affected. No one lived more than 5 years, some as early as within a year. Nothing is ever seen or talked of them any more. Moreover, the 10 families include several diabetes cases, few strokes and many families that are also affected by B Hepatitis. Most of them have high blood pressure and are dependent on pills and medicines to maintain their health condition.
Sometimes in the still darkness of night, I would still feel the rush of unshed tears when I recalled those cases. Cancer was such a taboo to talk about and most people were scared stiff to hear about incurable cancer. But I was the inquisitive type that would go to just any limits in search for the answer. So, it was lucky of me when I got myself involved in this holistic approach towards treatment and preventive cures from food, herbs and natural, inexpensive and safe ways. I was glad that I managed to master all those skills.
From my over 20 years of experiences in holistic approaches in preventive cures and treatment, I hereby would like to share with all of you about cancer-prevention, hopeful that cancer can be placed far away from us. Here are 10 tips on how to prevent cancer. These are taken from my personal column on "Alternative Health" in http://articlesubmission.info.
[1] Consume a variety of natural foods that contains high and good antioxidants excellent in detoxifying our body system from accumulated toxemia and acidosis. Drink enough clean unpolluted air to help flush out wastes products.
[2] Eat more locally planted vegetables and fruits, 5 servings of vegetables and 3 servings of fruits per day is advisable. Best taken raw which is rich in life-enhancing enzymes. Make sure that they are organically planted.
[3] Consume more beans or legumes that can help to prevent cells mutation
[4] Be conscious of our weight, don't over eat or stuff oneself, most cancer cases comes from overeating wrong foods and drinks. [the mandarin word of cancer is made up of 3 mouths that makes up the mountain of it, meaning overeating]
[5] Exercising moderately, go for stretching and proper breathing and make sure that our body cells are well irrigated with oxygen and rid off waste products.
[6] Don't eat burnt foods or stale fats. Fats easily go bad and are unstable and contains carcinogens when overheated or disturbed. [Beware of groundnuts, rich in fats but when those fats have distorted or gone stale, will taste weird, don't eat]
[7] Eat meats or fish sparingly [too acidic in nature]
[8] Refrain from too much alcohol drinks, refrain from smoking [don't purposely poison our body]
[9] Don't eat canned, processed, preserved foods that are high in carcinogens or preservatives, artificial flavourings and colorings
[10] 'Breathe in' positives like hope, love, self-affirmation of good health and exhale negatives like stress, fear, worries, sickness or destructive emotions.
There are some other reasons not included or explained. But you might have heard about this. 'Starve the cancer cells', don't feed them with animal proteins. Get acquainted with the wonder sprouts that contains high phyto-factors that will boost one's immune system. Prevention is so much better than cure. Spend our money wisely, do not buy 'troubles', do not 'invite' them..
Humans actually don't fall sick easily. Humans are extremely tough and strong and healthy provided we don't purposely poison ourselves with improper foods that causes toxemia and acidosis. Be grateful that our heart has been pumping blood into our circulatory system ever since we were born. Be grateful that our lungs, our kidneys and livers have been working for us the many years until now. Our kidney can still work even when left with 5% capability.
We should heed preventive measures. It is never too difficult nor too far away or impossible! Don't be too ignorant that the 'demon of illness' will not strike just anybody. Don't prepare a condition that welcomes it to strike us. Don't invite, but scare it off, ward it with strong immune system and again be thankful that we are endowed with plentiful of vegetables, fruits and herbs that can prevent cancer at the first place. Yes, there are cancer-preventing foods in abundance so near us.
If there are foods that can cause cancer, there are also certain foods that can prevent it, be aware of this fact.
Article 32, Healthy Tips for Steady Love Relationship, "Husband, Love Your Wife, Wife, Love Your Husband..."
[Home-and-Family] Are you married happily? Or married unhappily? Treat marriage holy and scared, that is what I have to say! It is not a suit bought and discarded when torn or faded. Marriage is a seal between two person who agreed to come together to build a new family. True love is long-suffering, patient, understanding and faithful in the awakening of the other's love. True love knows no barriers, no challenges, no flaws and it is always forgive and forget. Build on a win/win situation, patience, trust, faith & tolerance etc...
Take note of these 3 phrases. I used to share the following phrases with my friends...
[1] "True love is long-suffering, patient, understanding and faithful in the awakening of the other's love'
[2] "True love knows no barriers, no challenges, no flaws and it is always forgive and forget...."
[3] "Give your heart to only one, but your smiles to everyone.'
This should be expected between husband and wife partnerships. To foster a relationship and to maintain it needs skills to do so. It is of quite importance that one should stay faithful to each other. It is a comforting feeling that the presence of children will always cement relationships among parents.
One should not regret for a choice one made in marriage. It has been fated that the two of them should come together to produce new offspring.. Marriage isn't a buying up a suit and after feeling bored with it, throw it away and buy another new one. If you have made the vow or choice, never regret. It is a decision made to last or else this world will be in chaos.
Knowing that a suit can get faded and torn, it is the same for all ladies and gentlemen. No one will stay at 18 forever and no one is wise enough to pick a perfect choice when infatuated. Love isn't built on beds of roses, it is not just milk and honey... or darling for ever, agreed? The coming together of 2 person that comes from 2 different worlds are facing many realities of life when they start to live together.
[4] 'Tolerance, patience, persistence, interdependence, confidence, trust, open-ness, win/win situations, are attributes that can build a relationship, and the question is 'Are you willing to make it work?'
My mentor used to joke.... in this love thing, one always start from a stranger to friend and then to lovers, but after marriage, it becomes the opposite. Now it is from lovers, cold friends, then to strangers...eventually leading to breakups. Why is it always like this? What has gone wrong? When one is in love, each can sacrifice almost anything to gain each other's love, but now it is just the opposite.
Familiarity breeds contempt? Bored? Discovered something? Unwilling to change? Too sophisticated? Stagnant/stale relationship? Language barrier? Body barrier? One is lagging behind? Discrimination? Too attached? Too much dependence? No money, no talk? Someone is more sexy? 3rd party? Love problems? Health problems? Lack of sexual desire? No comfort? Too unresponsive? Too naive? No electricity? His faults? His bad character? No brains? the lists will be too long to write...
I have come across many women in emotional distress, and never even dared to talk about their failure in their love-life and family, about love fading, being ,deceived, about being jilted, about being left cold, about being sandwiched in between another mistress, losing interest in sex life and poor health. Most of these women suffered in silence and seemed to hoard all these negatives in their heart and mind. These women are sometimes so stressed that they released their angers on their own children. Just imagine, hurting physically or hurling hurting remarks to young children, their own kids and regretting later. We call that child abuse, this isn't a new issue, right?
How much more pitiful sights should one hear or see? How distressing it is to see these women being provoked and couldn't control their anger and hate? The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world, heard this phrase? The young will be indirectly influenced by bad temper and be ill-treated with abusive, rough meaningless words. That is why the morals of modern world have corrupted due to the improper bringing up of distressed mothers and maids or amahs their children grew up with. Instead of their own mothers, they grow up with Indonesian maids or amahs, and eventually they talk and think like one...
Emotional balance for a wife or a mother is too important in the structuring or influencing of our next generations. So, it again goes back to a happy family where the parents should be in good terms with each other. Parents should show good examples and lead the way to true happiness. Separations or divorces will be too hurting to each and everyone of the concerned.
[5] Treat this relationship as a journey instead of a destination.... All of us starts from strangers budding to friends, then to lovers, then to parents, grandparents and even lying beside each other when cold and lifeless.......companions for this life and eternity. Ever thought of it? It has been fated as I have said.
I came across an old wise man who told me this. "Husband and Wife is one life!" This only phrase awaken in me a reality, an understanding that I thought never would be. This awakening becomes my answer to my problems... I came to understand that 'his is also mine, mine is also his....', his problems are also mine, his wrongs or rights are also mine. There is no escape. Never think of fair or not fair....
[6] Yes, there is no escape on fair or not fair, or who is doing the lions share of work or anything..... Another wise old man told me too that if one demands justice in this topic of you love me, so I love you, you give, so I also give; you work, so I work.....there will never be any peace. Where is JUSTICE? Justice cannot be applied in 'male or female equal rights!' The more you fight, the more hurt it will bring.... the more sufferings will be there...
This husband and wife's love is a selfish love, but without it, there will be chaos. A perfect love between spouses will be proven when and where no third party can intrude or go in between them. An imperfect love will allow a third party to interrupt or is that an excuse for some? .
[7] The power of love and sex should never be underestimated. It has moved mountains and created histories of countless victories and failures. Many heroes still fall onto the feet of beauties, losing fame, families and failing their missions. Too many heroes and heroines are attracted by outer beauty, not inner beauty. Too many heroes and heroines preferred to be lured into the fantasies and wonders of forbidden love. The forbidden fruits too delicious to avoid. What can we do? Samson the strongest man fell to ruins too. He regretted and said. "A night's sensual pleasure is not worth a lifetime's imprisonment and death was the punishment!" It wasn't just a story.
Who are we to say that they are wrong? Who are we to say that they shouldn't or couldn't do this or that? But it has been written in the 10 commandments that we shouldn't commit adultery. Not the bible only, but wise teachings too. A solid marriage is only solid when both partners agreed to keep it as an eternal bond, otherwise separation is too easy. And how many people are really willing to work hard to keep the marriage? How many people are patient enough to wait in the awakening of the other's love?
[8] Keeping in mind that all humans have weaknesses. To err is human, to forgive is divine. To make mistakes or not to... sometimes this passion or love thing is too complicated to explain or express.. The efforts put into untangling or disconnecting an affair or forbidden love needs tremendous strong will and determinations..... but for the sake of family happiness and togetherness, all problems should be solved. For the sake of LOVE, for the sake of the children and our parents too.....
Take note of these 3 phrases. I used to share the following phrases with my friends...
[1] "True love is long-suffering, patient, understanding and faithful in the awakening of the other's love'
[2] "True love knows no barriers, no challenges, no flaws and it is always forgive and forget...."
[3] "Give your heart to only one, but your smiles to everyone.'
This should be expected between husband and wife partnerships. To foster a relationship and to maintain it needs skills to do so. It is of quite importance that one should stay faithful to each other. It is a comforting feeling that the presence of children will always cement relationships among parents.
One should not regret for a choice one made in marriage. It has been fated that the two of them should come together to produce new offspring.. Marriage isn't a buying up a suit and after feeling bored with it, throw it away and buy another new one. If you have made the vow or choice, never regret. It is a decision made to last or else this world will be in chaos.
Knowing that a suit can get faded and torn, it is the same for all ladies and gentlemen. No one will stay at 18 forever and no one is wise enough to pick a perfect choice when infatuated. Love isn't built on beds of roses, it is not just milk and honey... or darling for ever, agreed? The coming together of 2 person that comes from 2 different worlds are facing many realities of life when they start to live together.
[4] 'Tolerance, patience, persistence, interdependence, confidence, trust, open-ness, win/win situations, are attributes that can build a relationship, and the question is 'Are you willing to make it work?'
My mentor used to joke.... in this love thing, one always start from a stranger to friend and then to lovers, but after marriage, it becomes the opposite. Now it is from lovers, cold friends, then to strangers...eventually leading to breakups. Why is it always like this? What has gone wrong? When one is in love, each can sacrifice almost anything to gain each other's love, but now it is just the opposite.
Familiarity breeds contempt? Bored? Discovered something? Unwilling to change? Too sophisticated? Stagnant/stale relationship? Language barrier? Body barrier? One is lagging behind? Discrimination? Too attached? Too much dependence? No money, no talk? Someone is more sexy? 3rd party? Love problems? Health problems? Lack of sexual desire? No comfort? Too unresponsive? Too naive? No electricity? His faults? His bad character? No brains? the lists will be too long to write...
I have come across many women in emotional distress, and never even dared to talk about their failure in their love-life and family, about love fading, being ,deceived, about being jilted, about being left cold, about being sandwiched in between another mistress, losing interest in sex life and poor health. Most of these women suffered in silence and seemed to hoard all these negatives in their heart and mind. These women are sometimes so stressed that they released their angers on their own children. Just imagine, hurting physically or hurling hurting remarks to young children, their own kids and regretting later. We call that child abuse, this isn't a new issue, right?
How much more pitiful sights should one hear or see? How distressing it is to see these women being provoked and couldn't control their anger and hate? The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world, heard this phrase? The young will be indirectly influenced by bad temper and be ill-treated with abusive, rough meaningless words. That is why the morals of modern world have corrupted due to the improper bringing up of distressed mothers and maids or amahs their children grew up with. Instead of their own mothers, they grow up with Indonesian maids or amahs, and eventually they talk and think like one...
Emotional balance for a wife or a mother is too important in the structuring or influencing of our next generations. So, it again goes back to a happy family where the parents should be in good terms with each other. Parents should show good examples and lead the way to true happiness. Separations or divorces will be too hurting to each and everyone of the concerned.
[5] Treat this relationship as a journey instead of a destination.... All of us starts from strangers budding to friends, then to lovers, then to parents, grandparents and even lying beside each other when cold and lifeless.......companions for this life and eternity. Ever thought of it? It has been fated as I have said.
I came across an old wise man who told me this. "Husband and Wife is one life!" This only phrase awaken in me a reality, an understanding that I thought never would be. This awakening becomes my answer to my problems... I came to understand that 'his is also mine, mine is also his....', his problems are also mine, his wrongs or rights are also mine. There is no escape. Never think of fair or not fair....
[6] Yes, there is no escape on fair or not fair, or who is doing the lions share of work or anything..... Another wise old man told me too that if one demands justice in this topic of you love me, so I love you, you give, so I also give; you work, so I work.....there will never be any peace. Where is JUSTICE? Justice cannot be applied in 'male or female equal rights!' The more you fight, the more hurt it will bring.... the more sufferings will be there...
This husband and wife's love is a selfish love, but without it, there will be chaos. A perfect love between spouses will be proven when and where no third party can intrude or go in between them. An imperfect love will allow a third party to interrupt or is that an excuse for some? .
[7] The power of love and sex should never be underestimated. It has moved mountains and created histories of countless victories and failures. Many heroes still fall onto the feet of beauties, losing fame, families and failing their missions. Too many heroes and heroines are attracted by outer beauty, not inner beauty. Too many heroes and heroines preferred to be lured into the fantasies and wonders of forbidden love. The forbidden fruits too delicious to avoid. What can we do? Samson the strongest man fell to ruins too. He regretted and said. "A night's sensual pleasure is not worth a lifetime's imprisonment and death was the punishment!" It wasn't just a story.
Who are we to say that they are wrong? Who are we to say that they shouldn't or couldn't do this or that? But it has been written in the 10 commandments that we shouldn't commit adultery. Not the bible only, but wise teachings too. A solid marriage is only solid when both partners agreed to keep it as an eternal bond, otherwise separation is too easy. And how many people are really willing to work hard to keep the marriage? How many people are patient enough to wait in the awakening of the other's love?
[8] Keeping in mind that all humans have weaknesses. To err is human, to forgive is divine. To make mistakes or not to... sometimes this passion or love thing is too complicated to explain or express.. The efforts put into untangling or disconnecting an affair or forbidden love needs tremendous strong will and determinations..... but for the sake of family happiness and togetherness, all problems should be solved. For the sake of LOVE, for the sake of the children and our parents too.....
Article 31, Build Steady and Healthy Marriages, a Union of Body, Mind & Soul - Be Prepared to be Great Parents!
[Relationships:Marriage] Marriage is a union of body, mind and soul. Before marriage you have complete right over your body but now, only half the body belongs to you. Love lives by giving and forgiving, self lives by getting and forgetting, the mind sees separateness, love sees unity. Love casts out fear! The wife of the house must be always smiling and radiating Love. This is real beauty. The husband should be always providing and supporting and loving. This is real happiness!
Marriage is a Union of Body, Mind and Soul. Love is a flow, a fluid that flows continually like a fountain... [part 1 of 2]
Marriage is a union of body, mind and soul. Before marriage you have complete right over your body but now, only half the body belongs to you. The right side of the wife is the husband, and the left side of the husband is the wife. The husband and wife are like the locomotive and the compartment. To function usefully in life both must be together. One is useless without the other. The husband and wife should always stay together and eat in the presence of each other too.
The wife of the house must be always smiling and radiating Love. This is real beauty. Piling hair upon hair and doing fancy hair styles is not beauty. Before marriage, the girl should love her parent as a daughter, after marriage, the girl should also regard her in-laws as her parents. To serve her parents in-law is her duty. Even though the wife has to obey her husband, she must exercise authority jointly with her husband. The wife must develop self-confidence, because of self-confidence is the basis and self-realization is the goal of life.
What is real love then?
[1] Real Love is unconditional...
By unconditional we mean love, which does not demand anything back in return for that love. It is pure and unsullied by motives; it always gives, gives, and gives; never demanding anything back in return; there are no strings or conditions attached to this love. That is real love. Not only does this love not ask for anything in return, but continues to flow in spite of ingratitude or abuse. That is Real Love which never changes under any set of circumstances.
[2] Love is a flow, a stream of spiritual matter, a fluid that flows continually like a fountain..... Love is not an explosion, but a continued emanation, a psychic radiation which proceeds from the lover to the beloved." Here, the beloved can be one's child, one's friend, one's spouse, one's parents or one's Creator. When it includes libidinal energy, the beloved becomes one's lover. But sexuality without the spiritual dimension, merely on an animal level is like comparing a hut to a castle.
[3] Love lives by giving and forgiving,
[4] Self lives by getting and forgetting...
[5] The mind sees separateness, love sees unity....
[6] 'Love casts out fear!' 1 John 4:18
[7] When the husband and the wife accepts each other as life-partners, vowed to stay with each other, be it rain or shine, thereof we are committed to stay together. Of course, with love as the main ingredient of the family, all things will turn out nice and happy. But sad to say, too many people aren't as committed as should be. I am not going to talk too much on its negative sides
Think twice.... I used to share this short story.
When two lovers come together to marry, they are building up a family. It is like building a house. A few kids will fill up the house, making it noisy and dirty. If the roof of the house starts leaking, what will the father do? Leave it to deteriorate or throw the house away and go to build another new house? The answer is NO! The father will find means to mend the house because the whole family lives in it.
Likewise, if in the case when a man's marriage is breaking, one needs not throw away this marriage and aims to start another new family! Whose house will not leak? Whose marriage is guaranteed to be built only on roses, milk and honey? There is a way out, to solve it by 'mending', to save the marriage. There is this urgent need for mending, not leaving the marriage to die..... because there are kids! Don't be the creator of miseries and sufferings for your own kids. Never..ever think of it!
Marriage is a Union of Body, Mind and Soul. Love is a flow, a fluid that flows continually like a fountain... [part 1 of 2]
Marriage is a union of body, mind and soul. Before marriage you have complete right over your body but now, only half the body belongs to you. The right side of the wife is the husband, and the left side of the husband is the wife. The husband and wife are like the locomotive and the compartment. To function usefully in life both must be together. One is useless without the other. The husband and wife should always stay together and eat in the presence of each other too.
The wife of the house must be always smiling and radiating Love. This is real beauty. Piling hair upon hair and doing fancy hair styles is not beauty. Before marriage, the girl should love her parent as a daughter, after marriage, the girl should also regard her in-laws as her parents. To serve her parents in-law is her duty. Even though the wife has to obey her husband, she must exercise authority jointly with her husband. The wife must develop self-confidence, because of self-confidence is the basis and self-realization is the goal of life.
What is real love then?
[1] Real Love is unconditional...
By unconditional we mean love, which does not demand anything back in return for that love. It is pure and unsullied by motives; it always gives, gives, and gives; never demanding anything back in return; there are no strings or conditions attached to this love. That is real love. Not only does this love not ask for anything in return, but continues to flow in spite of ingratitude or abuse. That is Real Love which never changes under any set of circumstances.
[2] Love is a flow, a stream of spiritual matter, a fluid that flows continually like a fountain..... Love is not an explosion, but a continued emanation, a psychic radiation which proceeds from the lover to the beloved." Here, the beloved can be one's child, one's friend, one's spouse, one's parents or one's Creator. When it includes libidinal energy, the beloved becomes one's lover. But sexuality without the spiritual dimension, merely on an animal level is like comparing a hut to a castle.
[3] Love lives by giving and forgiving,
[4] Self lives by getting and forgetting...
[5] The mind sees separateness, love sees unity....
[6] 'Love casts out fear!' 1 John 4:18
[7] When the husband and the wife accepts each other as life-partners, vowed to stay with each other, be it rain or shine, thereof we are committed to stay together. Of course, with love as the main ingredient of the family, all things will turn out nice and happy. But sad to say, too many people aren't as committed as should be. I am not going to talk too much on its negative sides
Think twice.... I used to share this short story.
When two lovers come together to marry, they are building up a family. It is like building a house. A few kids will fill up the house, making it noisy and dirty. If the roof of the house starts leaking, what will the father do? Leave it to deteriorate or throw the house away and go to build another new house? The answer is NO! The father will find means to mend the house because the whole family lives in it.
Likewise, if in the case when a man's marriage is breaking, one needs not throw away this marriage and aims to start another new family! Whose house will not leak? Whose marriage is guaranteed to be built only on roses, milk and honey? There is a way out, to solve it by 'mending', to save the marriage. There is this urgent need for mending, not leaving the marriage to die..... because there are kids! Don't be the creator of miseries and sufferings for your own kids. Never..ever think of it!
Article 30, Healthy Marriages Promised - 16 Valuable Tips that will Enrich Our Marriage
[Relationships] Live the law of love, assume the best of one another, loves lives by giving and forgiving, speak softly, do things quietly, this is a virtue. Be attentive to minor changes/needs of your spouse. Learn to sprinkle fun and jokes when doing routine works. Master the skills of cooking well, be understanding and a good listener when sharing. Don't live in suspicion, don't exaggerate, be presentable, looking clean and robust. Most important of all, recognize the roles expected of us, as a spouse and a parent!
16 useful tips for maintaining a healthy spouse relationship
[1] Live the law of love.
Refrain from saying unkind or negative things... It is most often when a partner harbours hate and revenge deep inside their heart for a certain period of time that widens the gap of misunderstanding. I do feel that sometimes angry or unkind words are spoken when someone is angry or provoked. I presume that these wrong remarks are said without a true intention. Angered phrases never make any sense! Nobody dares say that he or she can remain calm when provoked. To remain unprovoked is really a skill that all of us have to learn.
[2] Assume the best of each one another....
No comparison please. This is one of the 'killer' that injects poisonous venom into an immature partner and will be killed' by jealousy. So, it is advisable not to evoke old pains and wounds by reminding each other of negatives. Learn to assume the best of each other...
[3] Love lives by giving and forgiving, self lives by getting and forgetting...
Giving and forgiving..... giving is comparatively easier that forgiving one's faults or sins. But true love means forgiving and forgetting. Be erased of wounds and stale tales... afterall, all of us learn through mistakes. Provided one is working hard towards an improvement, provided one is genuine enough, we should learn to forgive and forget.
[4] Speak softly and do things quietly this is a virtue, a virtue for all ladies and mothers.
Too many a times they that at one time were lovers, but after becoming mothers have changed from a meek kitten to an aggressive tigress! We do understand the emotional changes that takes place to these women, of their untold sufferings, suppressed hurts and roles expected of them, that these women are also stressed. Shouting and screaming are sometimes their only ways to release their stress...but think twice! Negative effects would be doubled, seen or unseen. One can imagine the negative impact it would make to their youngs, their parents-in-laws and their husbands.
[5] Be attentive to minor changes or needs Women are actually born to be more sensitive to changes or needs of the family.
Maximize your talents and make sure that you can shoot down the problems before it really started to create any disturbances.
[6] Learn to mix with fun and jokes when partaking in the routine work.
A joyous and humorous wife or mother will be very much treasured in a home. Be smiling always, a sweet smile adorns the face means so much more than any lipsticks or flowers.
[7] Master the skill to cook well, feed the husband, kids and parent-in-laws.
A hungry man is always an angry man! Heard of this? Try to put in special skills to add smiles to their faces when serving lunch or dinner. Always give them pleasant surprises once in a while. Cook nutritious, delicious healthy food for the family. Be health-conscious and be budget-wise. One shouldnt be a spendthrift too. Think of the one who sweats to make ends meet.
[8] Be understanding and be a good listener in times of sharing.
Learn how to massage away each other's tiredness. Learn how to dis-stress each other. Bring in fun, even as parents.
[9] Don't live in suspicion. Don't exaggerate a negative word or a meaningless action.
Don't push things over the wall. Be patient to achieve peace and resolutions.
[10] Be presentable, looking clean and robust. no husband wants to see a dirty, tired, and worried face after a hard day's work.
Keep oneself healthy in body, mind, emotion and spirit. Be a winner, not a whiner.
[11] A spouse should portray certain roles appropriate to spice up their love-life.
Learn to lure, tempt your spouse that will keep their love afire with desires and needs. Sometimes can be posing as lovers, girl/boyfriends, partners, enchantress, flirting with each other and evoking another romance, passion too magical to believe or too hot to handle! There is nothing wrong in the awakening of such passion among spouses!.
[12] Be open-minded to accept new ideas.
Both partners have to come to an agreement in taking up roles as wise parents, educating them as should be. Practise give and take, stand and sit, share and reap.... We should set good examples for children to follow, monkey see, monkey do...Bearing in mind that parents are the head of the family, so caution must be taken on the language we speak.....never underestimate the importance of proper and right influences,...the hands that rock the cradle rules the world....
[13] Solve disputes or disagreements away from the kids. Give it a specific date for resolutions.
[14] Be just, but never demanding true justice.
No emotions can be balanced on justice. You love me, so I love you... I love you, so you must love me! haha.... Can it be measured as fair and square? The 3 stages of love kindled emotions portrayed at different stages are not easily achieved, it is a journey, not a destination. It works hand in hand with patience and mutual understanding. From lovers to parents, from parents to grandparents living to old age as companions for life. Don't be misled by some romance stories and films where the heroes and heroines loved dramatically and lived on beds of roses.
[15] Be contented with what we have at hand.
One bird in our hand is much better that many birds in the bushes. Don't be tempted by what looked better or seemed delicious, but stand firm and not swayed by temptations of flesh. 'A forbidden night with his lover costed him his whole life imprisonment and death was what he got eventually!!' Samson regretted. Everyone knows this bible story.
[16] Go for holidays...
Arrange some time for each other only, to renew one's relationship. Though not afire, but into the mode of deeper cherishing of one another. Love does undergo different stages. Hopefully into a mature state where the love for each other matters more than the need to be together.
Some says that the most perfect match is a deaf husband with a blind wife. But we won't want to be deaf and blind. We want to be dear and beautiful! We are loving couples to last. Genuine love will be satisfying and blossoming. BEST of all is that all of us will be moving towards becoming a healthier and happier LOVER!
16 useful tips for maintaining a healthy spouse relationship
[1] Live the law of love.
Refrain from saying unkind or negative things... It is most often when a partner harbours hate and revenge deep inside their heart for a certain period of time that widens the gap of misunderstanding. I do feel that sometimes angry or unkind words are spoken when someone is angry or provoked. I presume that these wrong remarks are said without a true intention. Angered phrases never make any sense! Nobody dares say that he or she can remain calm when provoked. To remain unprovoked is really a skill that all of us have to learn.
[2] Assume the best of each one another....
No comparison please. This is one of the 'killer' that injects poisonous venom into an immature partner and will be killed' by jealousy. So, it is advisable not to evoke old pains and wounds by reminding each other of negatives. Learn to assume the best of each other...
[3] Love lives by giving and forgiving, self lives by getting and forgetting...
Giving and forgiving..... giving is comparatively easier that forgiving one's faults or sins. But true love means forgiving and forgetting. Be erased of wounds and stale tales... afterall, all of us learn through mistakes. Provided one is working hard towards an improvement, provided one is genuine enough, we should learn to forgive and forget.
[4] Speak softly and do things quietly this is a virtue, a virtue for all ladies and mothers.
Too many a times they that at one time were lovers, but after becoming mothers have changed from a meek kitten to an aggressive tigress! We do understand the emotional changes that takes place to these women, of their untold sufferings, suppressed hurts and roles expected of them, that these women are also stressed. Shouting and screaming are sometimes their only ways to release their stress...but think twice! Negative effects would be doubled, seen or unseen. One can imagine the negative impact it would make to their youngs, their parents-in-laws and their husbands.
[5] Be attentive to minor changes or needs Women are actually born to be more sensitive to changes or needs of the family.
Maximize your talents and make sure that you can shoot down the problems before it really started to create any disturbances.
[6] Learn to mix with fun and jokes when partaking in the routine work.
A joyous and humorous wife or mother will be very much treasured in a home. Be smiling always, a sweet smile adorns the face means so much more than any lipsticks or flowers.
[7] Master the skill to cook well, feed the husband, kids and parent-in-laws.
A hungry man is always an angry man! Heard of this? Try to put in special skills to add smiles to their faces when serving lunch or dinner. Always give them pleasant surprises once in a while. Cook nutritious, delicious healthy food for the family. Be health-conscious and be budget-wise. One shouldnt be a spendthrift too. Think of the one who sweats to make ends meet.
[8] Be understanding and be a good listener in times of sharing.
Learn how to massage away each other's tiredness. Learn how to dis-stress each other. Bring in fun, even as parents.
[9] Don't live in suspicion. Don't exaggerate a negative word or a meaningless action.
Don't push things over the wall. Be patient to achieve peace and resolutions.
[10] Be presentable, looking clean and robust. no husband wants to see a dirty, tired, and worried face after a hard day's work.
Keep oneself healthy in body, mind, emotion and spirit. Be a winner, not a whiner.
[11] A spouse should portray certain roles appropriate to spice up their love-life.
Learn to lure, tempt your spouse that will keep their love afire with desires and needs. Sometimes can be posing as lovers, girl/boyfriends, partners, enchantress, flirting with each other and evoking another romance, passion too magical to believe or too hot to handle! There is nothing wrong in the awakening of such passion among spouses!.
[12] Be open-minded to accept new ideas.
Both partners have to come to an agreement in taking up roles as wise parents, educating them as should be. Practise give and take, stand and sit, share and reap.... We should set good examples for children to follow, monkey see, monkey do...Bearing in mind that parents are the head of the family, so caution must be taken on the language we speak.....never underestimate the importance of proper and right influences,...the hands that rock the cradle rules the world....
[13] Solve disputes or disagreements away from the kids. Give it a specific date for resolutions.
[14] Be just, but never demanding true justice.
No emotions can be balanced on justice. You love me, so I love you... I love you, so you must love me! haha.... Can it be measured as fair and square? The 3 stages of love kindled emotions portrayed at different stages are not easily achieved, it is a journey, not a destination. It works hand in hand with patience and mutual understanding. From lovers to parents, from parents to grandparents living to old age as companions for life. Don't be misled by some romance stories and films where the heroes and heroines loved dramatically and lived on beds of roses.
[15] Be contented with what we have at hand.
One bird in our hand is much better that many birds in the bushes. Don't be tempted by what looked better or seemed delicious, but stand firm and not swayed by temptations of flesh. 'A forbidden night with his lover costed him his whole life imprisonment and death was what he got eventually!!' Samson regretted. Everyone knows this bible story.
[16] Go for holidays...
Arrange some time for each other only, to renew one's relationship. Though not afire, but into the mode of deeper cherishing of one another. Love does undergo different stages. Hopefully into a mature state where the love for each other matters more than the need to be together.
Some says that the most perfect match is a deaf husband with a blind wife. But we won't want to be deaf and blind. We want to be dear and beautiful! We are loving couples to last. Genuine love will be satisfying and blossoming. BEST of all is that all of us will be moving towards becoming a healthier and happier LOVER!
Article 29, Spiritual Quotient- Attaining Love- Faith- Hope and God! [Part 6 of 6]
[Self-Improvement:Spirituality] God's knowledge is beyond the scope of material knowledge. One may feel that spirituality is too abstract and not easily comprehensible. The God's Principle cannot be understood and realized by merely gathering material knowledge. In fact, God's Knowledge is beyond the scope of material knowledge. All divine messages come from divine sources. It needs extremely deep faith to believe and understand the formless God, but God is in existence, before, now and in the future-
[10] SQ2 Spiritual Quotient God is Love, Love is God!
'Attaining Love and realizing ourTrue Self' This is the highest Q among all other Qs. Read more to understand how close now we are with Divinity.
Our mortal body is embedding an immortal soul. Can you understand the situation of an immortal soul being embedded inside a mortal body which would soon decay and rot? Let us understand the fact that this body of ours is never meant to live forever and God wants us to realize this fact of immortality within. The ‘I’ within is God Himself. We are part of Him and meant to be immortal like God. Our body is just an instrument temporary in existence to let us realize this divinity within.
We should understand the fact that all of us are part of God, and there is no difference between you and me, or me and you. God is Love, Love is God. Love creates and holds our universe together. It is the most powerful positive emotion that all living things depend or live on. Yes, LOVE only. We are just like bubbles of waves breaking upon the ocean merging into the only ONE! The peace of mind and peace at heart only comes when you realize this fact that all are illusion and not permanent and that we are love embodiments.
Getting towards nowhere and going after meaningless pursuits of fame and recognition is nothing. Nothing is ever permanent or will be permanent. Gratefulness is greatness of loving. Without love, we are going nowhere. Without the realization of loving and forgiving, he is nothing. Without love, one cannot see the other person's love. There is nothing more precious that purity of the heart filled with genuine love for oneself, mankind and God.
Here is a section of a divine message that is 'Living in the presence of God' from a divine source... you will love to read and feel great after reading.
Yearn for the Lord with sincerity and faith, and watch, My dears, every door that appears bolted will unlock, itself, welcoming you in the constant paradise of God's security. Pray, My child, with complete pureness, and let the devotion that arises dig deep within to find that loot of strength that will make the ground move - letting the feet rest in the peace of prayers. Know, My child, that your spiritual disciplines are the wheels that allow the vehicle of life to move ahead - let the mind be locked securely in the trunk, and let the intellect arise from within to steer its way to the right path - leading you to the steps of faith, awakening from within the voice that speaks the truth in whispers.
No pride, nor doubts - nor fear, nor sarcasm - no blame nor anger can ever threaten to erase God's presence. To God, My dears, you are the wound-up toy that will, eventually stop - once the key of worldly ignorance has completely unwound its way through you.
Believe, and God will become the answer to your every question. Believe and God will be the assurance to your every doubt. Believe, and God will be more precious to you than any other want or desire. It is only a matter of your saying, "Yes"! Once you have affirmed God's presence with your faith, God, My child, will confirm it with God's Grace. Your pledge of self discipline will, one day, bestow upon you the biggest reward.
Discipline will arise, only when one is determined - determination arises, only from devotion - devotion will sprout, only with the seed of faith - and faith in the Lord will arise, only when one begins to recognize the constant rejection one faces in this world, and realizes that God's path of hope, patience and unconditional love remains open to him, always! Discipline must be enforced by you upon your own self, for when discipline is forced by another, its results are only suffocating and disastrous. When your weakness is pointed by another you consider it as "criticism" - once you have recognized your own weakness, only then will you truly seek the strength that will pull you and allow you to rise to the level of perfection.
Carry the inspiration with you, always - motivate yourselves by visualizing your true independence. Remind your every thought that arises that you are now in God's control - let the fears, fear their own existence. Let only the truth lead you - simplify your task by implicitly obeying the commands of the conscience - stop looking to only hear it - it is time, My child, that you listened from now! Comprehend your very own role that will bring the change. The strength that will allow you to walk is derived from your own love from within to reach the ultimate destination.
As long as you will under-estimate your own spiritual potential, until then, God will be bound by your limitations that you have set upon God's presence. Offer God all that you have with your hearts full, and God will accept and reward you with God, in return. The offer that comes only half hearted has snatched the home of life. Know that a homeless life is only lifeless and a lifeless home has no room left for God! Build the home and make God the heart, for when God is the beat - you will be in tune always and life will then be in synchrony with God/s perfect melody.
So, this article on SQ2 ends my multiple Qs for the sharing. No one Q can survive well in its own. The above 10 Qs will make up total success and happiness. Master all the 10 Qs and you will understand the wonder of surviving as a human being, who is so much better and gifted than just animals or plants. Life itself is a miracle, live a meaningful life and achieving a more fulfilled life, and to be living without regrets!
[10] SQ2 Spiritual Quotient God is Love, Love is God!
'Attaining Love and realizing ourTrue Self' This is the highest Q among all other Qs. Read more to understand how close now we are with Divinity.
Our mortal body is embedding an immortal soul. Can you understand the situation of an immortal soul being embedded inside a mortal body which would soon decay and rot? Let us understand the fact that this body of ours is never meant to live forever and God wants us to realize this fact of immortality within. The ‘I’ within is God Himself. We are part of Him and meant to be immortal like God. Our body is just an instrument temporary in existence to let us realize this divinity within.
We should understand the fact that all of us are part of God, and there is no difference between you and me, or me and you. God is Love, Love is God. Love creates and holds our universe together. It is the most powerful positive emotion that all living things depend or live on. Yes, LOVE only. We are just like bubbles of waves breaking upon the ocean merging into the only ONE! The peace of mind and peace at heart only comes when you realize this fact that all are illusion and not permanent and that we are love embodiments.
Getting towards nowhere and going after meaningless pursuits of fame and recognition is nothing. Nothing is ever permanent or will be permanent. Gratefulness is greatness of loving. Without love, we are going nowhere. Without the realization of loving and forgiving, he is nothing. Without love, one cannot see the other person's love. There is nothing more precious that purity of the heart filled with genuine love for oneself, mankind and God.
Here is a section of a divine message that is 'Living in the presence of God' from a divine source... you will love to read and feel great after reading.
Yearn for the Lord with sincerity and faith, and watch, My dears, every door that appears bolted will unlock, itself, welcoming you in the constant paradise of God's security. Pray, My child, with complete pureness, and let the devotion that arises dig deep within to find that loot of strength that will make the ground move - letting the feet rest in the peace of prayers. Know, My child, that your spiritual disciplines are the wheels that allow the vehicle of life to move ahead - let the mind be locked securely in the trunk, and let the intellect arise from within to steer its way to the right path - leading you to the steps of faith, awakening from within the voice that speaks the truth in whispers.
No pride, nor doubts - nor fear, nor sarcasm - no blame nor anger can ever threaten to erase God's presence. To God, My dears, you are the wound-up toy that will, eventually stop - once the key of worldly ignorance has completely unwound its way through you.
Believe, and God will become the answer to your every question. Believe and God will be the assurance to your every doubt. Believe, and God will be more precious to you than any other want or desire. It is only a matter of your saying, "Yes"! Once you have affirmed God's presence with your faith, God, My child, will confirm it with God's Grace. Your pledge of self discipline will, one day, bestow upon you the biggest reward.
Discipline will arise, only when one is determined - determination arises, only from devotion - devotion will sprout, only with the seed of faith - and faith in the Lord will arise, only when one begins to recognize the constant rejection one faces in this world, and realizes that God's path of hope, patience and unconditional love remains open to him, always! Discipline must be enforced by you upon your own self, for when discipline is forced by another, its results are only suffocating and disastrous. When your weakness is pointed by another you consider it as "criticism" - once you have recognized your own weakness, only then will you truly seek the strength that will pull you and allow you to rise to the level of perfection.
Carry the inspiration with you, always - motivate yourselves by visualizing your true independence. Remind your every thought that arises that you are now in God's control - let the fears, fear their own existence. Let only the truth lead you - simplify your task by implicitly obeying the commands of the conscience - stop looking to only hear it - it is time, My child, that you listened from now! Comprehend your very own role that will bring the change. The strength that will allow you to walk is derived from your own love from within to reach the ultimate destination.
As long as you will under-estimate your own spiritual potential, until then, God will be bound by your limitations that you have set upon God's presence. Offer God all that you have with your hearts full, and God will accept and reward you with God, in return. The offer that comes only half hearted has snatched the home of life. Know that a homeless life is only lifeless and a lifeless home has no room left for God! Build the home and make God the heart, for when God is the beat - you will be in tune always and life will then be in synchrony with God/s perfect melody.
So, this article on SQ2 ends my multiple Qs for the sharing. No one Q can survive well in its own. The above 10 Qs will make up total success and happiness. Master all the 10 Qs and you will understand the wonder of surviving as a human being, who is so much better and gifted than just animals or plants. Life itself is a miracle, live a meaningful life and achieving a more fulfilled life, and to be living without regrets!
Article 28, HQ (Health Quotient) and SQ1 (Success Quotient) (Part 5 of 6)
[Self-Improvement:Success] HQ is health quotient required of everyone who cares for his physical, mind, emotional and spiritual welfare. It is therefore our own responsibilities in caring for our own health. Health should be acquired through all 4 levels of health. SQ1 is success quotient. We are not greedy for fame or success. But that success is sweet, much sweeter that failure. Failure to me is just 'yet to succeed'
[8] HQ Health Quotient When one has health, one has hope, when one has hope, one has everything!
We are responsible for our well-being and health of body, mind, emotion and soul. We must acquire the knowledge of know-how to look after our own health. HQ is a necessity for survival. All of us must learn to attain all 4 levels of health. This is the only race that all of us should be winners not whiners in achieving total health and happiness. Ignorance will be very expensive. Doctors cannot put scrambled eggs into its shells, nobody can.
So it is of utmost importance that we should be reminded to achieve all 4 dimensions of health. The 4 levels of health includes healthy body, healthy mind, stable emotion and acquiring spiritual health and wealth. HQ includes such wide and great topics where on can touch on cures, preventive measures, treatments, food, herbs, medicines, food therapy, vita-nutrients, reflexology, naturopathy, acupuncture, aromatherapy, detoxification, exercises, massage, bekam moxibustion, nutrition and plentiful other topics not mentioned.
Not to leave out a sound mind on a healthy body, emotionally stable and spiritual enlightenment towards understanding True Self. HQ is one as important Q as all other Qs, thus life is made more meaningful as a healthy person. When one has health, one has hope, when one has hope, one can have everything.
[9] SQ1 Success Quotient Good luck = Big Success
Success is in everybody's lips, success is almost everybody's dreams. But how many can really be successful in what he or she thinks of achieving? Success cannot be bought, success cannot be instant. It involves tedious amount of planning, hard work, persistency, time and undergoes metamorphic changes and strengthened with confidence and moves on only with goals.
Success should come in a package. To me, good luck means big success. Skills towards achieving big success needs proper time management, appropriate money management, relevant self management and discipline so as to benefits from all the other Qs.
As human beings, one should recognize the importance of total success and happiness, each and everyone of us working towards achieving our different goals of life. It is not greedy that one looks for success, it is just that one lives better when successful instead of being a total failure. Be geared and motivated to move forward so as to learn from mistakes and failures. I used to share with my friends that there is no such word as failure, it is actually just 'yet to succeed!'
Good luck can be equated as preparations plus opportunities. Success really means good luck. Small luck are just temporary and never lasting. Life's preparations are never neglected and opportunities never gone unheeded. Treasure all opportunities before one can gain total success. SQ1 is a success quotient, a born Q that needs to be proven by time for everybody. Success is also a winning game, it is not just winning for some time, but an always winning game that brings more other successes. Of course, one should not forget about being goal-orientated. Master all the other Qs, and soon our SQ1 will be manifested in our lives, a something that one should be proud of.
to be continued...
[8] HQ Health Quotient When one has health, one has hope, when one has hope, one has everything!
We are responsible for our well-being and health of body, mind, emotion and soul. We must acquire the knowledge of know-how to look after our own health. HQ is a necessity for survival. All of us must learn to attain all 4 levels of health. This is the only race that all of us should be winners not whiners in achieving total health and happiness. Ignorance will be very expensive. Doctors cannot put scrambled eggs into its shells, nobody can.
So it is of utmost importance that we should be reminded to achieve all 4 dimensions of health. The 4 levels of health includes healthy body, healthy mind, stable emotion and acquiring spiritual health and wealth. HQ includes such wide and great topics where on can touch on cures, preventive measures, treatments, food, herbs, medicines, food therapy, vita-nutrients, reflexology, naturopathy, acupuncture, aromatherapy, detoxification, exercises, massage, bekam moxibustion, nutrition and plentiful other topics not mentioned.
Not to leave out a sound mind on a healthy body, emotionally stable and spiritual enlightenment towards understanding True Self. HQ is one as important Q as all other Qs, thus life is made more meaningful as a healthy person. When one has health, one has hope, when one has hope, one can have everything.
[9] SQ1 Success Quotient Good luck = Big Success
Success is in everybody's lips, success is almost everybody's dreams. But how many can really be successful in what he or she thinks of achieving? Success cannot be bought, success cannot be instant. It involves tedious amount of planning, hard work, persistency, time and undergoes metamorphic changes and strengthened with confidence and moves on only with goals.
Success should come in a package. To me, good luck means big success. Skills towards achieving big success needs proper time management, appropriate money management, relevant self management and discipline so as to benefits from all the other Qs.
As human beings, one should recognize the importance of total success and happiness, each and everyone of us working towards achieving our different goals of life. It is not greedy that one looks for success, it is just that one lives better when successful instead of being a total failure. Be geared and motivated to move forward so as to learn from mistakes and failures. I used to share with my friends that there is no such word as failure, it is actually just 'yet to succeed!'
Good luck can be equated as preparations plus opportunities. Success really means good luck. Small luck are just temporary and never lasting. Life's preparations are never neglected and opportunities never gone unheeded. Treasure all opportunities before one can gain total success. SQ1 is a success quotient, a born Q that needs to be proven by time for everybody. Success is also a winning game, it is not just winning for some time, but an always winning game that brings more other successes. Of course, one should not forget about being goal-orientated. Master all the other Qs, and soon our SQ1 will be manifested in our lives, a something that one should be proud of.
to be continued...
Article 27, IQ's Best Friend- Adversity Quotient! a Requisite to a Sure Win Attitude! [Part 4 of 6]
[Self-Improvement] AQ is a skill that all of us should possess. We need to pass all adversity tests, be it small or big tasks. A person should not miss out just any Q. MQ is moral-based skills that works with inner conscience and compassion as a human with feelings and guided to be righteous and just. MQ is a "MUST" to be mastered at home or in the society. Leading by example, monkey see, monkey do.
[6] AQ Adversity Quotient'
No matter what happened, we have to pass all adversities. We ought to pass all small and big tests alike.'
Who is without adversity? Where is there no rain or pain? To be able to face or deal with negatives is really a skill that all should master! Without AQ, a jilted professional will still jump from the tallest building to end his life. That would be the end of the story. No journey of life is just a stretch of smooth and straight road. No one's life is made of honey and milk only. No one lives in beds of roses as one expect of life. Our life journey is made more meaningful when spiced with challenges and tasks. It will strengthen our character and be fearless to further challenges in life. The skill in passing all these small and big tasks are expected of all of us.
Even when one possesses IQ, EQ, TQ, DQ, CQ or other Qs, but lack of AQ, it is meaningless. This setback will hinder a person's success and he will have no strength or skill to deal with negatives of life. All wise men are said to be touched with certain levels of adversities of life. Master this skill and pass the test with doctorate.
Adversities come in the form of misfortunes, poor health, jilts, incurable sickness, accidents, divorces, separations, unstable marriage, miscarriages, retrenchments, handicaps, unemployment, poverty, debts, deaths, failures, bankruptcies, lost of fame and many uncountable defects of life. Can we stand firm and steady at our feet to face them? To face them without tears or fears? Do we all have this ability or capability to pass these tests? How can one possess such AQ? Easier said than done. Look out for some more articles to come..
[7] MQ Moral Quotient
'Do not do to others that you don’t like others to do unto you'
This proverb emphasizes the importance of character molding in which we obtain self-control, good character, manners and habits, and understanding moral values as a human should be.
We have to obtain a bigger bunch of grapes of virtue. The grapes of virtue includes kindness, being filial, trustworthiness, unselfishness, love, generosity, be soft-spoken, peaceful, humbleness, gentleness, meekness, forgiving, thankful, grateful, considerate, patient, fidelity, obedience, loyal, graceful, justice, pious, reasonable, logical, positive and so forth…
A doctor who has all the other valuable quotients is a failure if he does not have MQ! Get what I mean? Who can bear with a doctor who is never considerate? Who will believe in him if he is a liar, a cheat, a bogie, a hypocrite? No matter how thick his certificate or his wealth, he couldn't erase off those black marks of life. This is a must Q that all of us should master. All of us should learn to lead by examples, monkey see, monkey do. As parents, we must know how to instill proper thinkings and characters when our kids are young.
At a tender age, these children are easily disciplined. Don't wait until the bamboo is grown tall and unbending. It all starts from our homes, so all parents and elders, all of us should be aware of behaving the right ways in front of them. Children well cared for and guided will produce another generations of wise and strong leaders of the tomorrow. Our world so much lack of such morals and characters and it is time that we involve positively towards achieving a healthier and happier populace. Remember the law of harvest!
to be continued.....
[6] AQ Adversity Quotient'
No matter what happened, we have to pass all adversities. We ought to pass all small and big tests alike.'
Who is without adversity? Where is there no rain or pain? To be able to face or deal with negatives is really a skill that all should master! Without AQ, a jilted professional will still jump from the tallest building to end his life. That would be the end of the story. No journey of life is just a stretch of smooth and straight road. No one's life is made of honey and milk only. No one lives in beds of roses as one expect of life. Our life journey is made more meaningful when spiced with challenges and tasks. It will strengthen our character and be fearless to further challenges in life. The skill in passing all these small and big tasks are expected of all of us.
Even when one possesses IQ, EQ, TQ, DQ, CQ or other Qs, but lack of AQ, it is meaningless. This setback will hinder a person's success and he will have no strength or skill to deal with negatives of life. All wise men are said to be touched with certain levels of adversities of life. Master this skill and pass the test with doctorate.
Adversities come in the form of misfortunes, poor health, jilts, incurable sickness, accidents, divorces, separations, unstable marriage, miscarriages, retrenchments, handicaps, unemployment, poverty, debts, deaths, failures, bankruptcies, lost of fame and many uncountable defects of life. Can we stand firm and steady at our feet to face them? To face them without tears or fears? Do we all have this ability or capability to pass these tests? How can one possess such AQ? Easier said than done. Look out for some more articles to come..
[7] MQ Moral Quotient
'Do not do to others that you don’t like others to do unto you'
This proverb emphasizes the importance of character molding in which we obtain self-control, good character, manners and habits, and understanding moral values as a human should be.
We have to obtain a bigger bunch of grapes of virtue. The grapes of virtue includes kindness, being filial, trustworthiness, unselfishness, love, generosity, be soft-spoken, peaceful, humbleness, gentleness, meekness, forgiving, thankful, grateful, considerate, patient, fidelity, obedience, loyal, graceful, justice, pious, reasonable, logical, positive and so forth…
A doctor who has all the other valuable quotients is a failure if he does not have MQ! Get what I mean? Who can bear with a doctor who is never considerate? Who will believe in him if he is a liar, a cheat, a bogie, a hypocrite? No matter how thick his certificate or his wealth, he couldn't erase off those black marks of life. This is a must Q that all of us should master. All of us should learn to lead by examples, monkey see, monkey do. As parents, we must know how to instill proper thinkings and characters when our kids are young.
At a tender age, these children are easily disciplined. Don't wait until the bamboo is grown tall and unbending. It all starts from our homes, so all parents and elders, all of us should be aware of behaving the right ways in front of them. Children well cared for and guided will produce another generations of wise and strong leaders of the tomorrow. Our world so much lack of such morals and characters and it is time that we involve positively towards achieving a healthier and happier populace. Remember the law of harvest!
to be continued.....
Article 26, TQ- Work in Teams For Excellence & Reach Unfathomable Goals Plus CQ- Original- Unique [Part 3 of 6]
[Self-Improvement] Teamwork is power and unity enhanced when the team is focused on achieving the same goals. When the team are also achieving a win-win situation, the team will achieve unpredictable heights. CQ is originality plus creativity. Ideas and creations of original sources are valuable assets, priceless pieces of art that the world will admire.
[4] TQ Teamwork Quotient
You can + I can = We can
Teamwork is a well applied skill that improves, speeds and increases productivity thus saving human and natural resources. It is an art of working together and should be aimed at a win/win situation for strength and stability. Certain agreements and regulations are set and followed so that these people can work happily with each other. Teamwork success will generate full power and is capable of moving mountains and filling up seas. No one should underestimate what teamwork can do. The art of focusing on the same goal is distinguishably working splendidly and will produce unexpected high performance.
One man's show, two men's show or a team's work? You can plus I can equals to We can. When we look at teamwork, it depicts power and unity. No one lives alone without teaming. Personal success is unique, team's success is POWER! Applause is sometimes given to that person who represents personal success, but in actual fact one should not forget to look behind at his team who is doing all the work. Be it in business or just any organization, teamwork works well. When all of them work towards the same direction towards achieving the same goals, there will be greater achievements and positive results. Thus many hands make light work but what is more important is the feeling of satisfaction when all of us join hands to create just any hallmarks or patents.
[5] CQ Creativity Quotient
Creativity itself is originality. Ideas and creations of original sources are valuable pieces of art.
Thanks to creativity that our earth is full of variation adorned with beautiful sceneries and sights. Creative art and models make our place of stay delightful with varieties and freshness. Creativity fills our world with different colors, shapes, sizes, themes, parks and unique models.
Dreams and thoughts could be things. Our brain functions in such a way that we can visualize our dreams into reality. With the help of DQ and IQ, many modern art and pieces are modified in a fantastically rate whereby these creative people produce better and special models of their own plus those existing figures or objects. A collection of ideas or thoughts can give birth to new ideas.
Acquired creativity from our daily experience and knowledge will push us ahead of time. One can just imagine the wonder of creativity in our society and how it affects us so much. Our mood, our lifestyle and our emotion are very much influenced by our surroundings too.
We sharpen our saw as we proceed and progress. If we stop to think, we will not be able to think right, if we involve ourselves in creativity, the egg in the nest will produce more eggs. Ideas give rise to more ideas.
to be continued
[4] TQ Teamwork Quotient
You can + I can = We can
Teamwork is a well applied skill that improves, speeds and increases productivity thus saving human and natural resources. It is an art of working together and should be aimed at a win/win situation for strength and stability. Certain agreements and regulations are set and followed so that these people can work happily with each other. Teamwork success will generate full power and is capable of moving mountains and filling up seas. No one should underestimate what teamwork can do. The art of focusing on the same goal is distinguishably working splendidly and will produce unexpected high performance.
One man's show, two men's show or a team's work? You can plus I can equals to We can. When we look at teamwork, it depicts power and unity. No one lives alone without teaming. Personal success is unique, team's success is POWER! Applause is sometimes given to that person who represents personal success, but in actual fact one should not forget to look behind at his team who is doing all the work. Be it in business or just any organization, teamwork works well. When all of them work towards the same direction towards achieving the same goals, there will be greater achievements and positive results. Thus many hands make light work but what is more important is the feeling of satisfaction when all of us join hands to create just any hallmarks or patents.
[5] CQ Creativity Quotient
Creativity itself is originality. Ideas and creations of original sources are valuable pieces of art.
Thanks to creativity that our earth is full of variation adorned with beautiful sceneries and sights. Creative art and models make our place of stay delightful with varieties and freshness. Creativity fills our world with different colors, shapes, sizes, themes, parks and unique models.
Dreams and thoughts could be things. Our brain functions in such a way that we can visualize our dreams into reality. With the help of DQ and IQ, many modern art and pieces are modified in a fantastically rate whereby these creative people produce better and special models of their own plus those existing figures or objects. A collection of ideas or thoughts can give birth to new ideas.
Acquired creativity from our daily experience and knowledge will push us ahead of time. One can just imagine the wonder of creativity in our society and how it affects us so much. Our mood, our lifestyle and our emotion are very much influenced by our surroundings too.
We sharpen our saw as we proceed and progress. If we stop to think, we will not be able to think right, if we involve ourselves in creativity, the egg in the nest will produce more eggs. Ideas give rise to more ideas.
to be continued
Article 25, Emotional Quotient? A Sure Success in Perfect Human Relationship! [Part 2 of 6]
[Self-Improvement] EQ is a skill that all of us should master and possess all positive emotions when dealing with just any situations. It is a skill about maintain beautiful human relationships. DQ is a skill that touches on improving all other Qs. All of us should be geared towards improving oneself and giving priority to developing oneself to be a better and meaningful person towards achieving your goals of life.
[2] EQ Emotional quotient
EQ is a skill that all of us should possess that includes every positive emotions and knows how to apply them when dealing with just any situations.
"If one can deal well with a someone who has bad tempers and habits, he is said to have high EQ. EQ is a skill of maintaining good relationships."
We are emotional humans with feelings, with passions and with a brain that always triggers off certain reactions or actions due to the state of emotion we are in. The passion or emotion within the person will either create or destroy the person. Positive emotions create while negative emotions destroy. Learn to master positive emotions that all of us are in dire need. Emotions or our state we are in will make or break a person. Passion of a person is just like a double-edged sword. The sharpness of the sword is unpredictable. The degree of passion cuts deep into our body, mind and soul. How can EQ be best applied? Is there a need to maintain good relationships?
Thus we should be geared towards achieving a stable emotion so as to become a person who is confident in dealing with oneself and others. No one can live happily in an island for long. We need friends. We need people around us, we are interdependent to each other in many ways. Instead of achieving personal success only, one should also aim at public success and mastering EQ is one of the requisite. All of us can enjoy an extremely good relationship when one understands the importance of EQ. EQ is a MUST skill to possess on the road towards achieving total success.
3] DQ Development Q
DQ is a skill that touches on improving all other Qs.
"Today must be better than yesterday, tomorrow must be better than today!"
Skills, techniques, faith, confidence, self-improvements, persistence and basic knowledge can be learned. All humans undergo three great learning stages, from childhood to adulthood and to mid-age till old. The 3 learning stages will be [1] learning stage [2] doing stage [3] teaching stage. One should recognize the different stages one is in. Learn, do, teach! A step a day, learning consistently and improving at all times will be good enough.
Most of us are endowed with 5 normal senses like touch, sight, hearing, smell and taste. I used to tell my students that when we maximize our 5 senses, our sixth sense will appear. They were at disbelief at first, but slowly understand what I meant. My dear friends, do we actually see with our eyes? Do we actually listen with our ears? Do we feel with our heart? Do we feel the compassion? Are you aware of all things that happen around us? Are we sensitive to all changes? Are our senses dulled with ignorance? Where is our conscience? Where is our empathy?
Surviving in this world of competition, in this world of ever changing pace, all of us, no matter who we are or in what field we are, all of us should be geared towards improvement. DQ is actually a skill on how one should improve oneself. To remain stagnant is a self defeat. To remain stagnant is a actually losing, being left behind. When everyone is on the move, the one who stayed behind is the one who is left behind. Learn to master the skill of self improvement.
to be continued
[2] EQ Emotional quotient
EQ is a skill that all of us should possess that includes every positive emotions and knows how to apply them when dealing with just any situations.
"If one can deal well with a someone who has bad tempers and habits, he is said to have high EQ. EQ is a skill of maintaining good relationships."
We are emotional humans with feelings, with passions and with a brain that always triggers off certain reactions or actions due to the state of emotion we are in. The passion or emotion within the person will either create or destroy the person. Positive emotions create while negative emotions destroy. Learn to master positive emotions that all of us are in dire need. Emotions or our state we are in will make or break a person. Passion of a person is just like a double-edged sword. The sharpness of the sword is unpredictable. The degree of passion cuts deep into our body, mind and soul. How can EQ be best applied? Is there a need to maintain good relationships?
Thus we should be geared towards achieving a stable emotion so as to become a person who is confident in dealing with oneself and others. No one can live happily in an island for long. We need friends. We need people around us, we are interdependent to each other in many ways. Instead of achieving personal success only, one should also aim at public success and mastering EQ is one of the requisite. All of us can enjoy an extremely good relationship when one understands the importance of EQ. EQ is a MUST skill to possess on the road towards achieving total success.
3] DQ Development Q
DQ is a skill that touches on improving all other Qs.
"Today must be better than yesterday, tomorrow must be better than today!"
Skills, techniques, faith, confidence, self-improvements, persistence and basic knowledge can be learned. All humans undergo three great learning stages, from childhood to adulthood and to mid-age till old. The 3 learning stages will be [1] learning stage [2] doing stage [3] teaching stage. One should recognize the different stages one is in. Learn, do, teach! A step a day, learning consistently and improving at all times will be good enough.
Most of us are endowed with 5 normal senses like touch, sight, hearing, smell and taste. I used to tell my students that when we maximize our 5 senses, our sixth sense will appear. They were at disbelief at first, but slowly understand what I meant. My dear friends, do we actually see with our eyes? Do we actually listen with our ears? Do we feel with our heart? Do we feel the compassion? Are you aware of all things that happen around us? Are we sensitive to all changes? Are our senses dulled with ignorance? Where is our conscience? Where is our empathy?
Surviving in this world of competition, in this world of ever changing pace, all of us, no matter who we are or in what field we are, all of us should be geared towards improvement. DQ is actually a skill on how one should improve oneself. To remain stagnant is a self defeat. To remain stagnant is a actually losing, being left behind. When everyone is on the move, the one who stayed behind is the one who is left behind. Learn to master the skill of self improvement.
to be continued
Article 24, IQ & 9 Other Unique Related Quotients for Uncommon Success For All Mankind! (Part 1 of 6)
[Self-Improvement] Multiple Qs are exceptionally interesting skills that include all those important Qs towards achieving total success as a better person, a better parent, a better partner and a better player of life. Our Qs should not be restricted to only one Q, that is IQ. Some other important Qs mentioned in my articles include EQ, DQ, CQ, TQ, AQ, MQ, HQ, SQ1, SQ2 that contributes to the awareness of achieving all Qs. Look at the sum of it, not just at one part of it and you will live your life to your fullest and never regret ever!
To master and understand the above multiple quotients is of great importance as to becoming a better person, a better parent, a better partner and a better player of life. One should not underestimate the power of multiple quotients, which are the basic requisites to life lived to the fullest and be a someone who says; ‘I have no regrets in life!!’ Life written cannot be rewritten. We should treasure all the rare moments in our life. This is a must to read…
What is this topic all about? The moment I take up my pen, I would be scribbling all the way down as to how to achieve and enjoy total success and happiness as a person. Life is short for man, one seldom lives over 100! So, it is of great importance that we make full use of what we have at hand and to maximize all our abilities and capabilities to be whom we actually are. To understand them better, I have categorized them into at least 10 topics of its own that contributes to the sum of it.
I am extremely excited and keen on writing multiple quotients that will make aware many to remind ourselves that what we are looking for in life can be enhanced and tapped productively. ‘Multiple Quotients"is compulsory for all to achieve better survival in this complicated world of ours. Let's have a look at the different types of quotients.
[1] IQ Intelligence quotient
Do you know that our IQ is inherited from our parents, our ancestors and our Creator? All of us should understand that we have inherited accumulated knowledge and wisdom from them. We are gifted in many ways at birth. That is why one can be exceptionally talented in his or her field when tapped. This is one of the most interesting thing one should know, we are all a kind of genius of our own! But many of us are not satisfied with what we have, thus going further to acquire more knowledge from all available, relevant and reliable sources. Our first teacher are our parents at home. Then we are sent to other educational sources like schools, institutes and universities and exposed to many professionals and other experts. We go in search high and low for gaining something extra, that is to increase our IQ.
Learning is a forever thing, we don't stop at just any junction to rest, thus we used to say that education is a means to an end, but not an end in itself. The techniques and skills in acquiring knowledge is then an everlasting task that all of us have to acquire. Our brain is the masterpiece that installs all the skills or ways and to be applied when doing things or dealing with problems that definitely will make a difference. All of us have spent so much of our time, money and effort in acquiring knowledge to be installed into our brain. That is why our brain is the most important part of our body. Use it or lose it.
By then one must remember that we are gifted as a human who has a brain and can think and evaluate. We are what we allow in our brain. We are who we think we are. We are what we program ourselves to be. IQ is the only Q that can be measured by our certificates. Many other important Qs cannot be measured by certificates or just any piece of paper, but it doesn't matter. We know what we should do and what is needed of us when we go further to understand more of the other Qs.
Thus IQ = inherited knowledge + acquired knowledge
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To master and understand the above multiple quotients is of great importance as to becoming a better person, a better parent, a better partner and a better player of life. One should not underestimate the power of multiple quotients, which are the basic requisites to life lived to the fullest and be a someone who says; ‘I have no regrets in life!!’ Life written cannot be rewritten. We should treasure all the rare moments in our life. This is a must to read…
What is this topic all about? The moment I take up my pen, I would be scribbling all the way down as to how to achieve and enjoy total success and happiness as a person. Life is short for man, one seldom lives over 100! So, it is of great importance that we make full use of what we have at hand and to maximize all our abilities and capabilities to be whom we actually are. To understand them better, I have categorized them into at least 10 topics of its own that contributes to the sum of it.
I am extremely excited and keen on writing multiple quotients that will make aware many to remind ourselves that what we are looking for in life can be enhanced and tapped productively. ‘Multiple Quotients"is compulsory for all to achieve better survival in this complicated world of ours. Let's have a look at the different types of quotients.
[1] IQ Intelligence quotient
Do you know that our IQ is inherited from our parents, our ancestors and our Creator? All of us should understand that we have inherited accumulated knowledge and wisdom from them. We are gifted in many ways at birth. That is why one can be exceptionally talented in his or her field when tapped. This is one of the most interesting thing one should know, we are all a kind of genius of our own! But many of us are not satisfied with what we have, thus going further to acquire more knowledge from all available, relevant and reliable sources. Our first teacher are our parents at home. Then we are sent to other educational sources like schools, institutes and universities and exposed to many professionals and other experts. We go in search high and low for gaining something extra, that is to increase our IQ.
Learning is a forever thing, we don't stop at just any junction to rest, thus we used to say that education is a means to an end, but not an end in itself. The techniques and skills in acquiring knowledge is then an everlasting task that all of us have to acquire. Our brain is the masterpiece that installs all the skills or ways and to be applied when doing things or dealing with problems that definitely will make a difference. All of us have spent so much of our time, money and effort in acquiring knowledge to be installed into our brain. That is why our brain is the most important part of our body. Use it or lose it.
By then one must remember that we are gifted as a human who has a brain and can think and evaluate. We are what we allow in our brain. We are who we think we are. We are what we program ourselves to be. IQ is the only Q that can be measured by our certificates. Many other important Qs cannot be measured by certificates or just any piece of paper, but it doesn't matter. We know what we should do and what is needed of us when we go further to understand more of the other Qs.
Thus IQ = inherited knowledge + acquired knowledge
to be continued...
Article 23, The Other Side of IQ [Part 2 of 2]
[Self-Improvement] The other sides of IQ refers to how uncertain IQ is when used alone and how it cannot be measured through certificates accurately. How some are blinded by our ego, pride or qualifications and looking down on those who aren't qualified. Climbing one summit will lead to higher summits ahead. We do value IQ, but we should never disregard other important Qs. The fittest will survive! All of us should admit this, because we are living in an extremely challenging world.
Let's take a look at the other side of IQ. Read through and think twice.
[1] IQ measured and put into certificates might not be 100% accurate. Why am I saying so? Not all people's intelligence mature at the same stage. Some people had not the chances to further their studies. Some weren't even given chances to be exposed to higher studies.
[2] Use it or lose it! That is our brain. Acquired knowledge can easily be lost if not used often. Knowledge is never lost when in constant use.
[3] Brain damage will also render one's existing certificate useless.
[4] A person's IQ can be improved with applying DQ, thus increasing and improving all the time.
[5] Some students were not at all interested in those subjects offered in school, thus eventually be ruled out of the outstanding board. Or perhaps not provided at that time.
[6] When great emphasizes are focused on studies to obtain a certificate, students tend to be stressed that they were building their parents' hope and happiness instead of themselves.
[7] In the pursuit of acquiring IQ from schools, those not too bright students were often looked down upon, left unnoticed, condemned, blamed, discarded and given undergrads by those classmates who thought they were better. I dare say, not the students only, the majorities are teachers themselves.
[8] Some relationships have gone stale due to prejudices of parents themselves in the discrimination of grades and qualifications when choosing for their children's life partners.
[9] Why is it that 99% of our brain left untapped? How can it be tapped?
[10] Where have our educational system gone wrong? Why the many dropouts and dissatisfaction among many? Are these people born to be left out of the crowd where IQ is concerned?
[11] Why have many of them been left 'to die' by themselves? But luckily managed to discover in a tough way that they can survive better without any certificate or are even better than most of us?
[12] Or are we blinded by our ego, pride or qualifications? Or 'qualified' to look down upon just anybody? Can a blind lead another blind to the market? What have we actually 'qualified' to lead and teach?
[13] Why the disturbances in schools? Why the lost of interests in schools? Where have all those great dreams gone to?
[14] Are we as educators teaching the wrong concept? Are we copycatting a wrong system ourselves? Ignorant ourselves?
[15] Look at our discipline at schools. It pained me so much to look into those ugly facts. And how the students are classified by teachers and degraded? Of course, there are differences in one's abilities and capabilities. Why the waste of time and money?
Here is not an end to those questions. There are some more to come, but to be able to deal with negatives is so much more important than to stay positive. Have just anybody applied all the Qs at home, in schools and in our society? Just as a reminder, all those other Qs can be extremely helpful to our basic Q, the IQ.
Just another point. " We value accumulated experiences, we value appropriate education, we value our educational support, we treasure acquired knowledge, we respect our mentors, BUT are we equipped with efficient knowledge to guide and teach our newer breed who have inherited our knowledge from birthrights too?" Are we as educators aware that these newer generations are smarter than when we were at that age? Are we not conscious that we have lost control of our newer generations? Are we not aware of the great pace of improvements? When did we first learn about computers and internet? When did we possess our first mobile phone? When did we watch the first colored TV? Why the generation gap?
CAN WE STILL USE OUR ACQUIRED KNOWLEDGE OF THE 19TH OR 20TH CENTURY'S WISDOM AND KNOWLEDGE TO TEACH OUR KIDS of today? These are our 21st century kids. Are we expecting these children to learn just from what we have at hand? Are we 'qualified' to lead by examples? Dear readers, be aware that CHANGE IS THE ONLY CONSTANT! Take for instance; writing good articles are getting more and more difficult, why? As when one submits an article, we should appropriately tick the column confirming that our articles are original and not copied from anywhere. Just look at all those published articles. They are personalized works from great thinkers and writers. These are great works that all of us admire! If our work is not better, how can one reach another level of success? Where then can we submit our articles to? Haha..... to the recycle bin?
All of us are working with experts and are no losers. When one has read good articles, we look for better articles, and from better to best. So, definitely the record is set higher for us to break. It is getting more difficult! If we were to remain stagnant at what our present levels, we will be so much far left behind. Climbing one summit will lead to higher summits ahead. Life is challenging. Face the challenges or be a loser. Look at our next younger generations. Shouldn't they be geared to move on the race?
Let's take a look at the other side of IQ. Read through and think twice.
[1] IQ measured and put into certificates might not be 100% accurate. Why am I saying so? Not all people's intelligence mature at the same stage. Some people had not the chances to further their studies. Some weren't even given chances to be exposed to higher studies.
[2] Use it or lose it! That is our brain. Acquired knowledge can easily be lost if not used often. Knowledge is never lost when in constant use.
[3] Brain damage will also render one's existing certificate useless.
[4] A person's IQ can be improved with applying DQ, thus increasing and improving all the time.
[5] Some students were not at all interested in those subjects offered in school, thus eventually be ruled out of the outstanding board. Or perhaps not provided at that time.
[6] When great emphasizes are focused on studies to obtain a certificate, students tend to be stressed that they were building their parents' hope and happiness instead of themselves.
[7] In the pursuit of acquiring IQ from schools, those not too bright students were often looked down upon, left unnoticed, condemned, blamed, discarded and given undergrads by those classmates who thought they were better. I dare say, not the students only, the majorities are teachers themselves.
[8] Some relationships have gone stale due to prejudices of parents themselves in the discrimination of grades and qualifications when choosing for their children's life partners.
[9] Why is it that 99% of our brain left untapped? How can it be tapped?
[10] Where have our educational system gone wrong? Why the many dropouts and dissatisfaction among many? Are these people born to be left out of the crowd where IQ is concerned?
[11] Why have many of them been left 'to die' by themselves? But luckily managed to discover in a tough way that they can survive better without any certificate or are even better than most of us?
[12] Or are we blinded by our ego, pride or qualifications? Or 'qualified' to look down upon just anybody? Can a blind lead another blind to the market? What have we actually 'qualified' to lead and teach?
[13] Why the disturbances in schools? Why the lost of interests in schools? Where have all those great dreams gone to?
[14] Are we as educators teaching the wrong concept? Are we copycatting a wrong system ourselves? Ignorant ourselves?
[15] Look at our discipline at schools. It pained me so much to look into those ugly facts. And how the students are classified by teachers and degraded? Of course, there are differences in one's abilities and capabilities. Why the waste of time and money?
Here is not an end to those questions. There are some more to come, but to be able to deal with negatives is so much more important than to stay positive. Have just anybody applied all the Qs at home, in schools and in our society? Just as a reminder, all those other Qs can be extremely helpful to our basic Q, the IQ.
Just another point. " We value accumulated experiences, we value appropriate education, we value our educational support, we treasure acquired knowledge, we respect our mentors, BUT are we equipped with efficient knowledge to guide and teach our newer breed who have inherited our knowledge from birthrights too?" Are we as educators aware that these newer generations are smarter than when we were at that age? Are we not conscious that we have lost control of our newer generations? Are we not aware of the great pace of improvements? When did we first learn about computers and internet? When did we possess our first mobile phone? When did we watch the first colored TV? Why the generation gap?
CAN WE STILL USE OUR ACQUIRED KNOWLEDGE OF THE 19TH OR 20TH CENTURY'S WISDOM AND KNOWLEDGE TO TEACH OUR KIDS of today? These are our 21st century kids. Are we expecting these children to learn just from what we have at hand? Are we 'qualified' to lead by examples? Dear readers, be aware that CHANGE IS THE ONLY CONSTANT! Take for instance; writing good articles are getting more and more difficult, why? As when one submits an article, we should appropriately tick the column confirming that our articles are original and not copied from anywhere. Just look at all those published articles. They are personalized works from great thinkers and writers. These are great works that all of us admire! If our work is not better, how can one reach another level of success? Where then can we submit our articles to? Haha..... to the recycle bin?
All of us are working with experts and are no losers. When one has read good articles, we look for better articles, and from better to best. So, definitely the record is set higher for us to break. It is getting more difficult! If we were to remain stagnant at what our present levels, we will be so much far left behind. Climbing one summit will lead to higher summits ahead. Life is challenging. Face the challenges or be a loser. Look at our next younger generations. Shouldn't they be geared to move on the race?
Article 22, The Other Side of IQ [Part 1 of 2]
[Self-Improvement] I have an interesting story to tell- It was about a young professor who went sailing. He was boasting about his qualifications among farmers and sailors and some other friends. Unfortunately, the ship sank and the professor was nearly drowned. Then they were forced to survive on the island. It was rough time for him but eventually learnt in a hard way about the law of surviving. What is actually learned from books may not be exactly the same when in practical. He also learnt about TQ, EQ, AQ-
I have a story to tell.
One day, a young professor went sailing. On his journey, he proudly introduced himself as professor and was happily chattering away with his newly found friends. He met some farmers and sailors. The professor was relaying about his school days and how he managed to qualify for his doctorate. He was a little carried away when he boasted about his capabilities as a professor. He laughed at his fellow mates that none of them were as qualified as him. Halfway, a storm was brewing. The wind was too big to control and soon they were in trouble. The ship was sinking but the professor didn't know how to swim. Now was the turn for all of them to laugh at him. 'What was the use of your thick certificates, you couldn't even swim!' Luckily the professor admitted his silly mistake and was saved.
The sailors put the young professor on a floating log and soon they came to an island. The professor was glad that he was saved. He was grateful to them but soon he was again relaying his stories of how respected and admired he was when in his university. He had no other stories to tell. His friends continued to bear with the professor's stories. All of them were forced to look for food on land and from sea. Soon they have caught some fish and collected some food. Poor professor, he had nothing to eat. He didn't know how to collect food. But the farmers told him to learn to collect food by himself.
The young professor was forced to learn how to survive. The farmers in no time were planting food and the sailors became great fishermen. But since the professor never did farm before nor slept under the stars, he suffered greatly. He eventually understood the law of Nature in a hard way. He admitted that life was not exactly as what he studied from the books! Slowly he was exposed to more laws of survival and by the time they were saved, the professor was a little 'uncivilized' and sun burnt, but happy. He had learnt a lesson, not to be proud of his acquired IQ! Luckily he was not the second Robinson Crusoe.
From this story, all of us should come to realize that all of us are unique and experts in their own way. Practice makes perfect. We should understand what interdependence means. We should learn to feel the grand colors of life that depicts varieties and uniqueness. We are no one man on an island!
There are many self-made millionaires who never had any certificates but are rich and powerful. There were also cases of great man and women who were great inventors and lived great lives. IQ when tapped will definitely make us a better person. But sad to say, some people have grown arrogant and proud of their achievements and looked down on some people they thought inferior. IQ is not the only Q that can contribute to SUCCESS!
Some very learned have grown proud and egoist and looked down upon those who have no such certificates. I can definitely smell the pride of most of these people. Some purposely showed off their acquired knowledge and emphasized how important they were. Pride goes for a fall. Certificates no doubt are extremely useful, but there is no need to compare people down.
Let's take a look at the other side of IQ. Read through and think twice. [to be continued...]
I have a story to tell.
One day, a young professor went sailing. On his journey, he proudly introduced himself as professor and was happily chattering away with his newly found friends. He met some farmers and sailors. The professor was relaying about his school days and how he managed to qualify for his doctorate. He was a little carried away when he boasted about his capabilities as a professor. He laughed at his fellow mates that none of them were as qualified as him. Halfway, a storm was brewing. The wind was too big to control and soon they were in trouble. The ship was sinking but the professor didn't know how to swim. Now was the turn for all of them to laugh at him. 'What was the use of your thick certificates, you couldn't even swim!' Luckily the professor admitted his silly mistake and was saved.
The sailors put the young professor on a floating log and soon they came to an island. The professor was glad that he was saved. He was grateful to them but soon he was again relaying his stories of how respected and admired he was when in his university. He had no other stories to tell. His friends continued to bear with the professor's stories. All of them were forced to look for food on land and from sea. Soon they have caught some fish and collected some food. Poor professor, he had nothing to eat. He didn't know how to collect food. But the farmers told him to learn to collect food by himself.
The young professor was forced to learn how to survive. The farmers in no time were planting food and the sailors became great fishermen. But since the professor never did farm before nor slept under the stars, he suffered greatly. He eventually understood the law of Nature in a hard way. He admitted that life was not exactly as what he studied from the books! Slowly he was exposed to more laws of survival and by the time they were saved, the professor was a little 'uncivilized' and sun burnt, but happy. He had learnt a lesson, not to be proud of his acquired IQ! Luckily he was not the second Robinson Crusoe.
From this story, all of us should come to realize that all of us are unique and experts in their own way. Practice makes perfect. We should understand what interdependence means. We should learn to feel the grand colors of life that depicts varieties and uniqueness. We are no one man on an island!
There are many self-made millionaires who never had any certificates but are rich and powerful. There were also cases of great man and women who were great inventors and lived great lives. IQ when tapped will definitely make us a better person. But sad to say, some people have grown arrogant and proud of their achievements and looked down on some people they thought inferior. IQ is not the only Q that can contribute to SUCCESS!
Some very learned have grown proud and egoist and looked down upon those who have no such certificates. I can definitely smell the pride of most of these people. Some purposely showed off their acquired knowledge and emphasized how important they were. Pride goes for a fall. Certificates no doubt are extremely useful, but there is no need to compare people down.
Let's take a look at the other side of IQ. Read through and think twice. [to be continued...]
Article 21, 2 Golden Keys to Unlock a Man's Heart!
[Relationships] 2 golden keys to unlock a man's heart. You must learn to know how to feed your man at your dining table and be satisfied in bed. Feeding with appropriate good, nutritious, healthy foods to stay young, robust, vibrant and strong is our motive. At the same time, we don't want our man to be overweight or obese. Make sure that you yourself can be the desirable, irresistible, sensual, lovable, attractive, healthy, romantic, sexy wife that your man feels proud of. It pays to play the game of rewarding too...
Here are 2 GOLDEN KEYS as how to unlock a man's heart
[1] feed your man well at the dining table
[2] satisfy your man's sexual needs at bed
Feeding your man well at the dining table means.....
Feed your man with 'good and proper' food to attain 4 levels of health. To get a man to be at home to eat is not a difficult task. If we woman have something that our husbands admire and desire, there is no difficulty in unlocking his heart. Once you have entered and have a steadfast place in his heart, you will be the happiest woman in the world. Not the outer beauty that attracts a man, it is the inner beauty that matters more, a personality that your man cannot resist.
A hungry man is an angry man. We should take great care as to how to get our men well fed. As wives we should make sure that we know those appropriate and healthy foods to feed him. We need to be wise in the choice of foods. It is of great importance that we should not let him be overweight or obese. Healthy, nutritious foods will be good enough with occasionally tonics to boost his overall health. It is not about feeding him blindly.
A healthy husband will be strong and not sickly. He trusts the wife to know all those nutritious foods. Be aware of rubbish foods, preserved foods, processed foods and cancer-causing foods too. If you want your husband to live a healthier life to accompany you to a ripe age, it is vital that we spare time to learn about healthy cooking. His health is our concern too. And at the same time, our whole family will be well taken for.
Our food shouldn't be too oily, too sweet, too sour nor with too much artificial flavors. Learn the basics of good nutrition. Cut down on read meats, less frying and barbecuing and more on steaming and light stir-fry. Learn to master cooking nutritious, delicious and good food. Your man will be just thrilled and proud of you at home or just anywhere. Your name will always be at his lips. You have done something that he as a husband will be proud of. Master the art of purposeful persuasion too.
Knowing the needs of her man, women must live up to her man's trust and confidence in her. Whatsoever fortune he makes outside, he will be sharing to his wife and family at home at the first place. He strives hard for the family too. He fights for his family too. So, as a wife in the family, she should know how to make him a real man too.
Satisfying his sexual needs in bed
Sexuality is rarely discussed among women as a therapy for mental and emotional health though IT IS one of the most beneficial requisite to having a healthy and happy marriage. The physical part of sexuality can be extremely therapeutic especially towards a person's confidence as to being feeling good and healthy. A vibrant sex life is a must to cement a good marriage. It is also a sure great exercise for our body, emotion, mind and heart. The details of physical love can be left to the sex experts, but I guess most people have researched and known the wonders of a good exercise in bed.
It goes back to our sense of touch. When we were young, we cry to be held close to our parents. We feel comforted and loved and well cared for when held close. The primal desire to be held and cared for becomes a vital force in our development as healthy adults. Touch is vital to our existence. Our muscles relax when we are touched appropriately. Our skin itself is a super conductor of nerve endings all over our body that detects warmth, pressure, vibration and tingling of our skin when fondled. It does have a vibrant positive effect, a stimulating and relaxing great treat before the actual thing.
By proper caressing and fondling, a person's anxiety and stress will be soothed as well as our body and mind at ease. Most emotional problems arise due to neglect and most partners are love-starved. What will be more important than to learn how to touch and caress each other relevantly? I am not a sex specialist, but I know that a healthy sex life goes a long way in maintaining a good marriage. But perhaps all of us should and know that sex should be confined at our love nest at home, not to be shared to the public.
The game of 'paying and rewarding' plays a great deal in our sex life too. Some flirting, some enchanting or exotic promises can enhance and attract the men to be loyal and loving you even till the age of 60. Make your man feel attracted to you even when you are at the age of 60. He won't feel left out. Be the desirable, lovable, creative, sensible, attractive and sexy wife that you man cannot resist, even until 60 years old or more. Go the extra mile to achieve it, it really pays to boost our sexual health..
When one is at one's best sexuality and sensuality, it will create not destroy. It assures one's relationship and provides a sense of security and belonging. Master the skill of giving and receiving in the art of physical love, it matters more than it seems to be. It is a sure magnet towards a healthier and happier marriage. Perhaps it is more advisible that such good things should be strictly within the marriage itself.
Both spouses will be robust, vibrant and healthy and thus it pays to be a good wife who knows how to feed him at the dining table and an expert in bed too. Not to be shy since no one will know except you and your hubby. These are the 2 valuable, precious golden keys towards achieving a healthier and happier marriage.
Here are 2 GOLDEN KEYS as how to unlock a man's heart
[1] feed your man well at the dining table
[2] satisfy your man's sexual needs at bed
Feeding your man well at the dining table means.....
Feed your man with 'good and proper' food to attain 4 levels of health. To get a man to be at home to eat is not a difficult task. If we woman have something that our husbands admire and desire, there is no difficulty in unlocking his heart. Once you have entered and have a steadfast place in his heart, you will be the happiest woman in the world. Not the outer beauty that attracts a man, it is the inner beauty that matters more, a personality that your man cannot resist.
A hungry man is an angry man. We should take great care as to how to get our men well fed. As wives we should make sure that we know those appropriate and healthy foods to feed him. We need to be wise in the choice of foods. It is of great importance that we should not let him be overweight or obese. Healthy, nutritious foods will be good enough with occasionally tonics to boost his overall health. It is not about feeding him blindly.
A healthy husband will be strong and not sickly. He trusts the wife to know all those nutritious foods. Be aware of rubbish foods, preserved foods, processed foods and cancer-causing foods too. If you want your husband to live a healthier life to accompany you to a ripe age, it is vital that we spare time to learn about healthy cooking. His health is our concern too. And at the same time, our whole family will be well taken for.
Our food shouldn't be too oily, too sweet, too sour nor with too much artificial flavors. Learn the basics of good nutrition. Cut down on read meats, less frying and barbecuing and more on steaming and light stir-fry. Learn to master cooking nutritious, delicious and good food. Your man will be just thrilled and proud of you at home or just anywhere. Your name will always be at his lips. You have done something that he as a husband will be proud of. Master the art of purposeful persuasion too.
Knowing the needs of her man, women must live up to her man's trust and confidence in her. Whatsoever fortune he makes outside, he will be sharing to his wife and family at home at the first place. He strives hard for the family too. He fights for his family too. So, as a wife in the family, she should know how to make him a real man too.
Satisfying his sexual needs in bed
Sexuality is rarely discussed among women as a therapy for mental and emotional health though IT IS one of the most beneficial requisite to having a healthy and happy marriage. The physical part of sexuality can be extremely therapeutic especially towards a person's confidence as to being feeling good and healthy. A vibrant sex life is a must to cement a good marriage. It is also a sure great exercise for our body, emotion, mind and heart. The details of physical love can be left to the sex experts, but I guess most people have researched and known the wonders of a good exercise in bed.
It goes back to our sense of touch. When we were young, we cry to be held close to our parents. We feel comforted and loved and well cared for when held close. The primal desire to be held and cared for becomes a vital force in our development as healthy adults. Touch is vital to our existence. Our muscles relax when we are touched appropriately. Our skin itself is a super conductor of nerve endings all over our body that detects warmth, pressure, vibration and tingling of our skin when fondled. It does have a vibrant positive effect, a stimulating and relaxing great treat before the actual thing.
By proper caressing and fondling, a person's anxiety and stress will be soothed as well as our body and mind at ease. Most emotional problems arise due to neglect and most partners are love-starved. What will be more important than to learn how to touch and caress each other relevantly? I am not a sex specialist, but I know that a healthy sex life goes a long way in maintaining a good marriage. But perhaps all of us should and know that sex should be confined at our love nest at home, not to be shared to the public.
The game of 'paying and rewarding' plays a great deal in our sex life too. Some flirting, some enchanting or exotic promises can enhance and attract the men to be loyal and loving you even till the age of 60. Make your man feel attracted to you even when you are at the age of 60. He won't feel left out. Be the desirable, lovable, creative, sensible, attractive and sexy wife that you man cannot resist, even until 60 years old or more. Go the extra mile to achieve it, it really pays to boost our sexual health..
When one is at one's best sexuality and sensuality, it will create not destroy. It assures one's relationship and provides a sense of security and belonging. Master the skill of giving and receiving in the art of physical love, it matters more than it seems to be. It is a sure magnet towards a healthier and happier marriage. Perhaps it is more advisible that such good things should be strictly within the marriage itself.
Both spouses will be robust, vibrant and healthy and thus it pays to be a good wife who knows how to feed him at the dining table and an expert in bed too. Not to be shy since no one will know except you and your hubby. These are the 2 valuable, precious golden keys towards achieving a healthier and happier marriage.
Article 20, Multiple Quotients for a Loving Wife in the Family!
[Relationships] A Perfect Loving Wife? 6 Quotients that A Man will look for in a Wife. What are those skills needed to be a perfect plus loving wife? A wife will make or break him. The best attributes towards such a wife is the one who can master all the multiple Qs, especially IQ, EQ, DQ, AQ, MQ and HQ. Count how many Qs can a wife acquire for her family. Is it worth going the extra mile to prove oneself of a capable and influential wife? Will she be well-respected, well-admired and well-loved by her family members?
A loving perfect wife? What does a man looks for in a wife?
A wife will make or break her man! There are several Qs that a wife need to understand and master. She must acquire good IQ, be equipped with high EQ, possesses good DQ, and with exceptionally high AQ. She needs MQ and HQ too. She will then be a rare jewel in the family that her husband will treasure!
A wife is a man's chosen lover to be a future mother of his children. She is chosen among all his female friends. Before that she is daughter of her parents too. A well chosen wife will be extremely precious and priceless in the building of another new family. But a wife has her many responsibilities. Recognizing her responsibility is the basic requisite that will put all things right and proper.
How can IQ help a wife?
Good IQ is that of inherited and acquired knowledge. A wife who possesses high IQ will bring personal and family success.
A wife with high IQ brings many benefits to a family. A wise woman can bear good children and rear them up wisely. As a wife, she should be smart enough to recognize the needs of her husband, her parent-in-law and her family on the whole. An intelligent wife will know what is best for the family and herself.
A wife of high IQ can assure the family to be built on solid foundations where children will be well-cared for, well-loved and well-educated to become future great gentlemen and ladies. The art of bringing up young children is a skill itself. If these children are brought up properly, the world will be a better place to live in. Home education is very much emphasized and it is the job of a mother too! A wife is also a mother too.
She must possess the 2 golden keys towards opening her husband's heart. The 2 golden keys were discussed in my precious article. Only then she can succeed as a well-respected, well-loved, well-admired wife!
How can EQ help a wife?
Emotional Quotient is a NEED for a wife in fostering proper relationship within a family and her neighbourhood. All positive emotions that include love, faith, kindness, loyalty, forbearance, patience, trustfulness, courage and understanding have a direct impact on a happy relationship in a family.
True love will be long-suffering, patient and understanding in the awakening of the other's love. The skill towards mastering proper relationship depends on one's concept on love and marriage. The right attitude and thinking is a MUST!. With applicable EQ, a wife will be determined to succeed in bringing up a happy family. She knows the importance of being emotionally stable.
But being emotionally stable is easier said than done. To have equanimity towards pain and joy, hunger and in abundance, richness and poverty, failure or success is extremely difficult to acquire. It is a state of total forbearance that he or she is actually spiritually enlightened to experience so. It is a state of going selfless. It is a state of achieving spiritual health and wealth too.
An angered or hateful wife is a failure herself. Thus one must know that the chief focus of our emotional nourishment, caring and sense of well being goes to hugging. To be hugged close and be told that we are loved will melt hardened hearts.. All fears and misunderstandings will disappear into thin air when one practises the art of appropriate hugging of loved ones.
How can DQ help a wife?
DQ for a wife is 'LEARNING AND IMPROVING'. A wife who possess DQ is a great TEACHER indeed.
Development Quotient is a quotient where all of us are improving or being improved. A wife willing to learn and master the skills of teaching her children will go to great extend to replenish and equip herself with relevant knowledge and skills to be able to lead their children. Leading by examples is one of the most effective molding and influencing of our children in their early stages.
The importance of improving oneself in all skills in the sculpturing of the family is a great need in creating happy families. Most families are not well-to-do families at the beginning. A strong willed and determined wife will encourage her husband towards moving towards achieving success a step at a time. A wife with DQ will have the wisdom to do work out things together.
How can AQ help a wife?
Adversity Quotient is an ASSET for a wife. Whatever happened, happened for the best. Accept all happenings and challenges as steps towards success.
To be positive is easier said than done. To be able to deal with negatives is even more important. Adversity quotient matures a person to be fearless of any challenges. AQ sometimes come in the form of sickness, accidents, misfortunes, deaths, separations, handicapped and the ability to stay calm and steady in rough seas is such a difficult test. The best ornament is only obtained from the fiercest of fires. Thus describing a someone who dares all challenges will be a better person in quality.
She must have the ability and capability to recognize all small and big tasks, challenges and difficulties. She needs unwavering courage so as to win too. She won't allow herself to fall flat, she won't be discouraged, she won't be disabled, she won't be disappointed, she won't be defeated. She who has high AQ will be a winner, not a whiner. She complained, yes she did, but hidden away from just anyone. She cried, yes, she did, but not in front of anyone.
How can MQ help a wife?
A wife with high morals and discipline will create the right atmosphere of a family. Morals and disciplines come in to put things right and proper. Do the right things before doing the things right.
A wife of high morals and discipline is difficult to find nowadays. Children should be brought up with a rod instead of spoiling them. Sparing the rod will spoil the kids. But a mother will high self-discipline will seek discipline in her children by leading and showing by examples. A wife or a mother should understand the negative impact of certain actions and words not suitable to say or practise.
How can HQ help a wife?
Health Quotient is a MUST that is required of a wife because the whole family health is in her hand. She is the one who hold the purse, purchase the food and cook and serve them on the table.
Her knowledge on personal hygiene, home cleanliness and attaining health on all 4 dimensions of health is in dire need too. She is the one most responsible to maintain a family health by the food she buy and cook. Prevention is better than cure. An ill diet is prepared by the wife. She has the most responsibility in maintaining a healthy family, physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.
Acquiring all the above multiple Qs is a need, thus what we feel is lacking should be replaced immediately. Of course, to be perfect is never easy, but anyway what about learning to be one? For the sake of our children?
A loving perfect wife? What does a man looks for in a wife?
A wife will make or break her man! There are several Qs that a wife need to understand and master. She must acquire good IQ, be equipped with high EQ, possesses good DQ, and with exceptionally high AQ. She needs MQ and HQ too. She will then be a rare jewel in the family that her husband will treasure!
A wife is a man's chosen lover to be a future mother of his children. She is chosen among all his female friends. Before that she is daughter of her parents too. A well chosen wife will be extremely precious and priceless in the building of another new family. But a wife has her many responsibilities. Recognizing her responsibility is the basic requisite that will put all things right and proper.
How can IQ help a wife?
Good IQ is that of inherited and acquired knowledge. A wife who possesses high IQ will bring personal and family success.
A wife with high IQ brings many benefits to a family. A wise woman can bear good children and rear them up wisely. As a wife, she should be smart enough to recognize the needs of her husband, her parent-in-law and her family on the whole. An intelligent wife will know what is best for the family and herself.
A wife of high IQ can assure the family to be built on solid foundations where children will be well-cared for, well-loved and well-educated to become future great gentlemen and ladies. The art of bringing up young children is a skill itself. If these children are brought up properly, the world will be a better place to live in. Home education is very much emphasized and it is the job of a mother too! A wife is also a mother too.
She must possess the 2 golden keys towards opening her husband's heart. The 2 golden keys were discussed in my precious article. Only then she can succeed as a well-respected, well-loved, well-admired wife!
How can EQ help a wife?
Emotional Quotient is a NEED for a wife in fostering proper relationship within a family and her neighbourhood. All positive emotions that include love, faith, kindness, loyalty, forbearance, patience, trustfulness, courage and understanding have a direct impact on a happy relationship in a family.
True love will be long-suffering, patient and understanding in the awakening of the other's love. The skill towards mastering proper relationship depends on one's concept on love and marriage. The right attitude and thinking is a MUST!. With applicable EQ, a wife will be determined to succeed in bringing up a happy family. She knows the importance of being emotionally stable.
But being emotionally stable is easier said than done. To have equanimity towards pain and joy, hunger and in abundance, richness and poverty, failure or success is extremely difficult to acquire. It is a state of total forbearance that he or she is actually spiritually enlightened to experience so. It is a state of going selfless. It is a state of achieving spiritual health and wealth too.
An angered or hateful wife is a failure herself. Thus one must know that the chief focus of our emotional nourishment, caring and sense of well being goes to hugging. To be hugged close and be told that we are loved will melt hardened hearts.. All fears and misunderstandings will disappear into thin air when one practises the art of appropriate hugging of loved ones.
How can DQ help a wife?
DQ for a wife is 'LEARNING AND IMPROVING'. A wife who possess DQ is a great TEACHER indeed.
Development Quotient is a quotient where all of us are improving or being improved. A wife willing to learn and master the skills of teaching her children will go to great extend to replenish and equip herself with relevant knowledge and skills to be able to lead their children. Leading by examples is one of the most effective molding and influencing of our children in their early stages.
The importance of improving oneself in all skills in the sculpturing of the family is a great need in creating happy families. Most families are not well-to-do families at the beginning. A strong willed and determined wife will encourage her husband towards moving towards achieving success a step at a time. A wife with DQ will have the wisdom to do work out things together.
How can AQ help a wife?
Adversity Quotient is an ASSET for a wife. Whatever happened, happened for the best. Accept all happenings and challenges as steps towards success.
To be positive is easier said than done. To be able to deal with negatives is even more important. Adversity quotient matures a person to be fearless of any challenges. AQ sometimes come in the form of sickness, accidents, misfortunes, deaths, separations, handicapped and the ability to stay calm and steady in rough seas is such a difficult test. The best ornament is only obtained from the fiercest of fires. Thus describing a someone who dares all challenges will be a better person in quality.
She must have the ability and capability to recognize all small and big tasks, challenges and difficulties. She needs unwavering courage so as to win too. She won't allow herself to fall flat, she won't be discouraged, she won't be disabled, she won't be disappointed, she won't be defeated. She who has high AQ will be a winner, not a whiner. She complained, yes she did, but hidden away from just anyone. She cried, yes, she did, but not in front of anyone.
How can MQ help a wife?
A wife with high morals and discipline will create the right atmosphere of a family. Morals and disciplines come in to put things right and proper. Do the right things before doing the things right.
A wife of high morals and discipline is difficult to find nowadays. Children should be brought up with a rod instead of spoiling them. Sparing the rod will spoil the kids. But a mother will high self-discipline will seek discipline in her children by leading and showing by examples. A wife or a mother should understand the negative impact of certain actions and words not suitable to say or practise.
How can HQ help a wife?
Health Quotient is a MUST that is required of a wife because the whole family health is in her hand. She is the one who hold the purse, purchase the food and cook and serve them on the table.
Her knowledge on personal hygiene, home cleanliness and attaining health on all 4 dimensions of health is in dire need too. She is the one most responsible to maintain a family health by the food she buy and cook. Prevention is better than cure. An ill diet is prepared by the wife. She has the most responsibility in maintaining a healthy family, physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.
Acquiring all the above multiple Qs is a need, thus what we feel is lacking should be replaced immediately. Of course, to be perfect is never easy, but anyway what about learning to be one? For the sake of our children?
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